We had a big family dinner at and my in laws they made sure that ever one had a seat at the table except me I ended up having to go in the living room and sit with the children and no one said im sorry or tryed to find me a chair and I have been married into the family for 8 years . they make me so mad i could spit nails!!!!!
2006-11-19 14:24:01 · 17 answers · asked by motherofcampers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I hear ya' honey, loud and clear! Try having one for almost 27 years, and she still is a beoch!!! I have nothing to do with her at all....and don't care who doesn't like it...My husband didn't "see it", how she blows me off....but then on his 40th b-day, a video was made and I asked her something trivial, and on film, there she is blowing me off...My daughter says "look Dad, grandma wasn't very nice to mom"...SHE saw it!!! then my husband saw it for the first time too...I was done with her....she has pulled a couple stunts over the years, and I wrote her exactly what I thought of her, and I was done.....No one deserves to be treated like crap...I could never do anything right by her, done trying a long time ago...I just don't care anymore. Toxic people can zap your self esteam.....not worth it!!! On a different note, my father in law who husband/myself never really got along with, passed away today....although he wasn't nice to me (I am of a different religion, and he didn't like that), I still felt badly today when I found out....People are people. but you have to be happy, even if that means you just don't participate in their lives....sometimes that is just how it is......
2006-11-19 15:27:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mine are rotten. The next time there is a family dinner refuse to go. Tell them since there is no place for you on the table why bother invite you. As far as your husband he should have stood by you, but husbands get into an awkward position with family around. Give him time he will start supporting you. Mine did after 20 long years of snide remarks made by my inlaws.
My mother in law even called me a prostitute, whereas she is the one who got pregnant by a muslim paying guest when she was just 15. This was way back in the early fifties in conservative India.They ended up marrying but all the children realised she was pregnant before marriage when they celebrated their 50th anniversary.
They created a big scene on my wedding day on the road right outside my father's house - demanding the decorated car for their son to go to church.
Now we are in the same city as them, but haven't visited them in over an year. Today is her birthday. Leave alone going to wish her in person, my husband hasn't even phoned her. She is nasty and my father in law is worse. The good thing is after so many years my husband sees them for what they really are. You keep your cool , things will fall into place.
2006-11-20 00:12:20 · answer #2 · answered by Paddy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just plain rude. I'd be furious. Why didn't your husband say anything about this?
My in-laws treat me like crap, too! My brother in law tried to run me over with his truck once, the first time I met my mother in law, she told me to get out of my brother in law's chair because he wanted to sit there...(he hadn't even been home yet when I arrived there). I could go on and on but I'd be here all night...my husband is on his mother's side...it's only been 4 years, but it's been a LONG 4 years...
2006-11-19 22:36:52 · answer #3 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I have to say I'm sorry. I have wonderful in laws and I don't think they would do what yours did. Your in laws seem to be down right rude and cold. If I were you, I would have a talk with your husband about this. Let him know how this makes you feel and be honest about your feelings. Then I would make a point to bring it up with the in laws. Let them know that you wont stand for being treated like that any longer.
2006-11-20 10:09:26 · answer #4 · answered by Dorah C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a person can only treat you the way you allow them. think of your self as better than that talk to your husband and let him know how you feel. if he dont see a problem when time to go to the in-laws find something else to do dont fall for there crap you married the son not the whole family good luck
2006-11-19 22:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to tell you, but this is your husband fault!
HE permits this conduct and obviously didnt care if you were not seated at the table netx to him.
I have horrible father in law (who just passed away last week), his wife (my husbands stepmother), my husbands brother and his wife.
But let me tell you, MY hysband will not allow any type of disrespect or insults towards me...He will be the first one to put a stop to it immediately.
I ignore the situation when ever I am there, abd I am just countind down the minutes when we could leave,,,but I keep my head up high, remain next to my husband, say only hello and good bye.
Just keep in mind, you are not married to them but to your husband, and you need to make your husband understand that they are his family and you respect them, but you are his wife and he need to respect you, and give you your place.
wether they like you or not is besides the point, you are there with your husband and that is enough reason why they should at least act in a decent way, or you jusband should make it very clear that that conduct towards you needs to stop, or neither of you will be attending any other family gatherings
Good luck !
2006-11-19 23:07:17 · answer #6 · answered by sandi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sadly you married into a very ignorent family. Where was your husband? Next time try to secure your sit before everybody else does. After 8 years it's time to speak up!
2006-11-19 22:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by aum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the person i think i would be mad at is your husband so what did he do go ahead and eat at the table with them? how rude... and if they did that to me i wouldnt go back there anymore for anything.. i do not have that problem my mom in law loves me says im the daughter she never had and she and i actually get along better then me and my own mom
2006-11-19 23:49:15 · answer #8 · answered by momoftwobestkids 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the Greek play about the Spartan women and how they handled their husbands. This is your husband's fault, although most mothers in law think that the person who married their child is inadequate,
Cut him off until he wants to know why.
2006-11-22 17:45:54 · answer #9 · answered by Polyhistor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to get up and make that little dinner a liitle more memorable. I would tell all of them to go to hell and demand my husband he better go now. I have evil in-laws also. There will be a breaking point for you. Trust me on that.
2006-11-19 23:28:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋