i have been going out with my boyfriend for a little bit or a year and a half and we have a great relationship im 25 and he is 29 i just found that he had a threesome when he was 18 and he didnt like and and he said he would never wanted to do it again and it only went on for about 10 min and didnt finish it but i was shocked to find this out am i crazy for being jealous or what?
2006-11-19 14:20:11 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, you're not crazy...I would be pretty jealous too. At least he didn't like it though...and you don't have to worry about him pushing you into one.
2006-11-19 14:22:48 · answer #1 · answered by sweetienat123 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you have any feelings one way or the other about what happened over 10 years ago. Teens do try many things and learn from them.
I don't understand why he even told you about it. We all have a past and that is where it should stay.
I never ask the woman I am with about her past and I do not talk about mine. What is important is what is now and what the plans for the future are.
Look into your past and see if there is something you could tell but think it is best to leave alone. We all have them.
Remember there is a lot of difference between Love and Lust. So many use the work love and actually mean lust for.
2006-11-19 14:30:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're crazy for being jealous. This was 11 years ago, long before you.
If you are jealous of stuff like that it will prevent him in the future from telling you about things like this, or to share his fantasies with you for fear of upsetting you and your relationship. Nobody should have to worry about that with the one person that should accept them wholeheartedely and unequivicolally. It's funny that you have to hide the most from the one person you should be able to tell everything to because it might hurt them.
Try to get over it and open-up the line of communication about this and many other things.
2006-11-21 06:06:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are crazy to be jealous. It was 11 years ago, and he even admitted to not liking it. So what which is worse, him liking it and thinking about the "good ol' days" or him not liking it and being happy with what he has? Everyone has a past, it's what shaped who the person is today. If he had never tried it, he would probably still be fantasizing about them.
2006-11-19 14:32:59 · answer #4 · answered by A5150Ylee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, yea. Why are you jealous of something he did years ago? That's no reason to be upset at you. If anything, you should credit him for being honest about his sexual life. Then again, women usually don't want to hear these things from their significant others. I mean, who cares really. What you did in the past is the past, let's live in the present.
2006-11-19 14:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by Aestial 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends...are you jealous because you want to try a threesome and it sounds as though he never wants to again...for some reason
or jealous because he experienced it and you didnt
or jealous for the normal...picturing him with another girl
...It happened over 10 years ago, no need to be jealous that he was with another girl...youve been with other guys right, should he be jealous?
2006-11-19 14:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by Krista P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol no your not. Don't worry guys have lots of fantasies and are curious to try them out. Some times they like it and sometimes they regret it. Don't act so shocked either because you might hurt his ego for opening up to him. Give him a pat on the back and let him know that your happy he had a open mind to try something like that.
2006-11-19 14:33:26 · answer #7 · answered by Careatha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutly. This had nothing to do with you, it was 11 years ago. Thats like him being upset you aren't a virgin even though it happened forever ago.
Its not as if he is trying to get you to do it. I think its childish to be jealous of something he can't change and something that happened before he knew you.
2006-11-19 14:24:27 · answer #8 · answered by moderncutthroat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're out of your mind. That would weird me out too. I would definitely be tested for STD's to be on the safe side though. Not saying that to be a joke, I'm serious!
2006-11-19 14:27:34 · answer #9 · answered by freedove06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your keen to experience what he has experienced. I believe your boyfriend is lying to water down the experience so you don't feel bad. If he is a guy, which he obviously is, and you want to experience it, ask him and I bet he jumps at the idea!! Have fun and enjoy.........
2006-11-19 14:23:31 · answer #10 · answered by jtgot1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋