I moved back home to save money. I am 27. So, until I move out, would it be best to REFRAIN from dating?

Question

1. I am concerned that dating is a waste of time/money/energy/ when you live back home.

2. Would I be better to wait until I move out until I begin dating again.

3. I am very self-conscious that I have moved back in to save money. I'd like to move out by August of '07.

4. Would you suggest that I REFRAIN from dating until then?

Answer 1

No, don't refrain from dating. It's best to own yourself, and give yourself chances to grow into new relationships in spite of the potential "image" problem of living with parents. Autonomy is great, but not at the expense of budgetary self destruction. "Cool and broke" doesn't cut it. But neither do you want to go into a state of social atrophy just because you live under the same roof as Mom and Dad. By all means, stay involved with your friends and keep dating.

These days, lots of people have moved back in with parents, women and men alike. It's a practical thing. Finding work can be hard, student loans pile up, and so people need to economize in their years after college. A responsible mate -- and likely someone who'll be on your wavelength, too -- will recognize and respect this.

Chances are your grandparents lived with their parents until or nearly until they met each other. True also, they probably didn't go to college, nor face the complexities of getting settled in a new career, such as we experience today. But people in their day respected children who respected their parents and kept a solid family together. With as much emphasis as there is today on building stronger families, I say, it couldn't hurt being at home.

That said, your parents need to regard you as an adult, not a child. They'll ask you to take on responsibilities for the home, but they should be prepared to give you freedoms commensurate to your age. If you believe they cannot advance their own maturity to that point, you'll want to keep your stay-at-home term as short as possible. Like I said at the beginning, own yourself.

If you feel simply too self-conscious about being at home, then it may be best to refrain from dating. Also, if you want the economies of living with parents while enjoying your nights out "playing the field," you're in for obvious trouble, too. Your date/mate will easily feel deception in either case.

Good luck with your future, whatever your decision!

Answer 2

i could say specific, yet my brother is 27years old and nonetheless lives at living house with a 6year old and his lady chum would not have a job did not end extreme college. If I have been my mom he does not be right here. So threes my opinion and that i'm 15 years old. Going to go out while i'm 18, i don't elect to be living at my mum and dad living house something of my life. Already saving to go out. Have adequate for the vehicle i elect :D

Answer 3

No way - you may meet someone you like within the next year that you wouldn't want to miss out on. Also dating might help you from wallowing in self pity because you live at home...

Answer 4

I don't think you should.Just because you may lose out on good women and/or "hottness" that you may have.I wouldn't stop dating,but don't bring your date home,until your know you have the house to yourself for awhile.Also,don't bring the person home UNTIL you get to know them better and think you're compatible.Hope this helps!!

Answer 5

If youre there to save money, then its probably a wise decision unless youre dating someone who doesnt mind talking, walking and other things that cost 'time' only. ;) Peace.