dating seems to lead only to sin, but how are we supposed to know who we should marry then?
2006-11-19 14:07:45 · 11 answers · asked by ? 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I know you can date and not have sex, but if you're attracted to the person, you'll have lustful feelings for them.
2006-11-19 14:15:29 · update #1
I think we don't have a true understanding of exactly what lust is. God created each of us as sexual beings. We are physically attracted to the opposite sex. If we were not, I don't think we would be able to follow His command to "be fruitful and multiply", Being sexually attracted to the opposite sex is NOT lust, though. This God given sexual attraction BECOMES lust when we develop within our hearts a desire to engage in inappropriate sexual contact.
If each person would view the opposite sex with respect and honor and have within our hearts the desire to do what is best for ourselves and the other person then we would be able to treat each other in a holy and wholesome manner. So it is entirely possible to date and search for a mate and at the same time not lust after that individual but treat them in a holy and set apart manner.
2006-11-19 14:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by yagman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The intimate part of marriage is very important and you want to be compatible but that is not where you begin in a long term relationship. Life partners must be able to endure the long hall so to speak. There are many challenges to face between two people. Many outside influences that are your support groups must be there for you both as well. Getting along with others, trust, goals, intent, beliefs, faith, family acceptance. Much to work on. Relationship are complex and should not be considered serious just because you lust after each other. That simply isn't the lasting factor.
2006-11-19 14:28:38 · answer #2 · answered by skooter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date without sex. Dating doesn't mean sex, dating means spending time with someone you find to be interesting. Spending time getting to know this person better, connecting on a personal level. Basing your relationship on an emotional connection, rather then a sexual one. This makes for a great relationship, NOT sex!
2006-11-19 14:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by Cjs 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is very possible to date without sinning. Don't just jump into bed. Talk, have fun, and get to know one another. Also communication is very important. Be very clear about your intentions from the beginning and set boundaries. Don't "tempt" one another to sin, but rather help one another stay pure until marriage. This is where communication is so important. It isn't easy, but it is possible, and it's more than worth the wait. Don't believe the lie that it's impossible to wait.
2006-11-19 14:13:02 · answer #4 · answered by Consuming Fire 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let the relationship come naturally but the real issue is when we see how close we get to "crossing that line." When you tempt yourself like that, then the real struggle begins.
You can date effectively within guidelines, just don't go down that road of temptation. You will see how fast you cross that line.
2006-11-19 14:32:30 · answer #5 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might but sex isn't a great way to get to know someone. You will end up spending a lot more time talking to your partner than having sex with them... Wouldn't it be better to actually like them as well as be sexually excited by them? Jim
2006-11-19 14:20:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lust comes about when the other person is the means to your sexual goals. Focus on not making others into sexual objects, and you should do well.
2006-11-19 15:46:06 · answer #7 · answered by SigGirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lust is a must, Chaste makes waste.
2006-11-19 14:53:36 · answer #8 · answered by iknowtruthismine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can date without having sex!!!
Try it
2006-11-19 14:13:22 · answer #9 · answered by Utopia 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't put out before you get married. That's how.
2006-11-19 14:09:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋