ok, so the other night i was at a party with my friends, and my friends sister had this new boyfriend Tanner that she brought along. He was really hott and really kewl and i liked him alot but i knew he was goin out with ashley so i didnt do anything, k well after everyone there was allready pretty drunk, Tanner kept hugging and flirting with me and after awhile he even admited he liked me, and then he started talking about how he wanted to hook up and by then i was drunk.. and for some reason i didnt think it was that big of a deal anymore, so i had sex with him, and now ashley knows now, and i feel sooo bad. i cant even beleive i did that, cuz im not the kinda person that sleeps with other ppls boyfriends.. specially when i jst met them that night, but ashleys alot more mad at tanner than me. but she said she wasnts gunna do anything to me cuz she still loves me. but im jst not allowed at her housr for awhile to give her some space and all but i dont know what to do i jst feel so bad
2006-11-19 14:04:49 · 29 answers · asked by sara j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you should feel bad, you betrayed your friendship and things will never be the same../ Ashley will probably always feel betrayed and not know if she can trust you with any further boyfriends she may have.. She may even retaliate by messing around with one of your boyfriends...sorry but in times like these you just can't go back
2006-11-19 14:09:41 · answer #1 · answered by Daylynn456 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to be way more responsible and behave i mean you could have done better in all the choices you made i know you regret these actions but you need to step up ur standards ANYWAYS since you cant change the past right now you need to focus on developing discipline so that this will never happen again you need to learn to control the temptations of getting drunk also you need to look at people for more than a day before you decide you like them so step up on those standards too if you want a lasting relationship you need to look for more good qualities and spend more time with people before you decide you can act on your emotions
so besides working on your character there really isnt anything you can do other than apologize and helping your friend out when she needs you i recommend to leave her alone and give her room because this is some serious drama it will pass and life will go on but just be responsible next time because you cant change what other people do but you can control yourself ;)
2006-11-19 14:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by shorty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look on the bright side, it could have gone down like this: Tanner hit's on you, you turn him down and tell your friend....she talks to him and he says YOU hit on him and you're on the outs.
At least this way, you had some fun and your friend knows that Tanner is a dog. I'd give your friend some space - wait a couple of weeks - and all should be right again.
2006-11-19 14:10:05 · answer #3 · answered by bardstale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you wanting someone to tell you it was okay and to move on... not going to happen here... shame on you... it would break my heart if a friend slept with a guy that I went to a party with... I hope you have extended an extreme sincere apology to this girl... as far as the guy taking advantage of you being drunk is your only saving grace here... he's to blame also... it's hard to make rational decisions under the influence... so becareful from now on... the rumor is now... we all know now that when your drunk and someone wants to fu***k... your the girl to see... Now give me my ten points for best answer... just because I didn't give you a one liner... be careful in the future!!!!
2006-11-19 14:17:34 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I feel bad for you. You need to understand that it takes 2 to tango. Wasn't all you. Just apologize . As for the male. You have already dropped him. That is good. Or is it? Do some soul searching and find out where you stand on this before making a move. By the way don't ever call yourself stupid. You made a mistake. Learn from it. We all do things we wish we hadn't have.
2006-11-19 14:11:05 · answer #5 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-29 07:16:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth, you were DRUNK, Tanner had been coming on to you all night. He took advantage of you. But you my dear, so have known better. See what drinking does, and its the main doorway to drugs, unwanted children,HIV,AIDS and all kinds of other STD's - wake up and send your friend a letter apologizing and send it with some nice flowers - say your sorry - say you will NEVER betray a girl friend again - and MEAN IT - now ask God to forgive you...
2006-11-19 14:12:12 · answer #7 · answered by peaches 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You broke the trust of friendship.
You also committed a sin according to the bible.
I guess you need to rethink your actions and stop drinking alcohol, it impairs judgement, but does not make your actions the alcohol's fault.
You feel bad only because you know what you did was wrong, now your being punished for your actions.
2006-11-19 14:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good 2 know you did wrong. Don't feel that bad it wasn't all your fault. Things happen for a reason, He wasn't a good candidate for Ashley either. Talk to Ashley and tell her you R sorry! and good luck!
2006-11-19 14:16:41 · answer #9 · answered by Iram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh babe i know how this goes. give her space and things will blow over. they ALWAYS do right? and about tanner, don't talk to him again for a few months or better yet never again. cuz he's obviously a sick-o if he has a girlfriend and seduces someone she knows into having sex with him
2006-11-19 14:08:51 · answer #10 · answered by BLEHH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋