We are in a long distance relationship, she used to come over when I was there, but now that I am living in another city, she still comes over, am I tripping because I am not cool with it. I am trying to trust him, am I playing myself?
2006-11-19 14:00:07 · 14 answers · asked by Babygirl22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am currently in a long distance relationship, and I would be upset if this happened. I totally trust my bf, but I do not trust alot of girls. Talk to your bf about this. If he doesn't understand why this bothers you, then this long distance relationship probably isn't going to work. Communication is soooo important in a long distance relationship.
2006-11-19 14:04:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It all depends. What kind of vibes did you pick up from her when you were there? Did you ever sense she was trying to nab your boyfriend? Probably not. Most women would not be that blatant, I would think. And certainly, he would know she had the hots for him and not want the two of you together in the same room if he had the same ideas about her.
My best and longest lasting friendship is with a guy I met in 3rd grade. We hung out together throughout gradeschool, highschool, and college. I never felt anything for him but friendship, and the feeling was mutual I am sure. He met a girl and got engaged while in college. And even while they were engaged, I still slept over at his house if we were studying and it was too late to drive home. They have been married for 20 years and we are all still good friends.
I don't think you should be worried. And to be honest, if you tell him it bothers you and you would prefer he not hang out with her, it will probably drive him away.
It's the women he doesn't tell you about that should worry you. ;)
2006-11-19 22:12:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can trust him, but Don't Trust HER. Send a message to HER and HER alone, make it clear that you do not want her visiting your "boyfriend" in his apartment or hers alone - ever again. Tell her and make it clear that if she does, when you are there - you WILL resolve this conflict. Leave it at that. Now call your "boyfriend", tell him what you have done and said, make him understand that you Trust him, but not the situation. That you know in certain circumstances his resistance can be low and temptation easily happens. You love him and if he doesn't agree - dump him and move on! He's already involved with her. Trust me, I know the signs. Long distance relationships at a young age are far too hard to maintain. Take a break - Good Luck -
2006-11-19 22:07:14 · answer #3 · answered by peaches 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a few male friends. FRIENDS. One of the things I do to make sure I don't cause any bad feelings is that I make sure the girlfriend meets me, and I try to include her as often as possible - why not, I say, make ANOTHER friend in her?
Sometimes, a girl is just too jealous to tolerate this, and, in that case, I usually step away until he dumps her because she does turn out to be so clingy and demanding...and it usually doesn't take very long.
Why not talk to the two of them? Just tell her that you're uncomfortable with it because you don't, really, understand the nature of the relationship between them.
2006-11-19 22:07:37 · answer #4 · answered by dingobluefoot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my bf & i dont have a lond distance relationship & he always has some one ( normaly a woman ) over at his house and i dont really care because hes clumsy and evey one trys not to leave him alone for a while in fear he might do somthing stupid.
2006-11-19 22:05:34 · answer #5 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
surpise him with a visit... that should give you all the answers you need...
i hate to say it sweetie, but in my experience, the long distance relationships never work
2006-11-19 22:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by He moonwalked on my <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told the boy you ain't cool with it??? If he knows how you feel and continues, then you have to make a choice - either leave or continue to be the "other woman".
2006-11-19 22:05:12 · answer #7 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am on your side. Doesn't sound cool to me. Even if you are sure there is nothing wrong actually happening, you're feelings are totally justified.
2006-11-19 22:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by max 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you definitely should not take that. tell him how u feel about or quietly go find out for yourself. my ex bf used to do that and it really bothered me. it causes too much stress but if hes worth it then talk to him. he may think your overreacting but your not. if you did that to him he wouldnt be happy either.
2006-11-19 22:06:59 · answer #9 · answered by =] 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you're right. its not cool with me either.... talk to your bf about how you feel about the situation. he should be able to understand you. if not, then i suppose there's something wrong or there's something happening with them. i hope everything works well.
2006-11-19 22:07:31 · answer #10 · answered by iris 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋