My friend just got engaged after dating 4 years, brother-in-law was engaged first, after dating six years. Friend wants Aug '07 wedding, but bro has Sept '07 planned. What is proper etiquette for planning two weddings in one family?
2006-11-19 13:58:47 · 11 answers · asked by amymarkopoulos 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
we have a similar situation in my family so we pushed our wedding date forward 2 months so it wouldn't so much of a problem, but i think its ok i mean june-sept is peak wedding season you have to expect more than one wedding will happen in that time frame. Last summer my family was invited to 4 weddings!! let me tell ya its a cost! thats the biggest downfall is its soooo much in a short time span but hey its a special happy occasion so go with it it will all work out to be great. If you are involved with planning both weddings just make sure to allocate your time fairly to both weddings as you are needed. It can get hectic, stay cool be helpful where you are needed and have fun!!
2006-11-19 17:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by So Happy!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you friend become engaged to a family member? Or are you looking to become engaged with the intent of marrying in '07? As long as the weddings aren't in the same month then there shouldn't be a problem. Don't expect all of the invitees to attend both weddings, though...especially if most are coming from out of town, etc. They might not be able to take the time off or have other plans.
2006-11-20 00:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps I'm missing something. Your friend is planning on Aug 07 and your brother law is planning on Sept. 07. It doesn't sound like there are two weddings in one family (unless your friend is related to your brother-in-law).
Also, why would you be planning either your friend's or your brother-in-law's wedding?
2006-11-20 02:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wedding will be 2 months before my brother in laws- and we are in two different states. The downside to the weddings being so close together is that the family might want to reserve their funds for the wedding that is closer to home since they will have to travel to get here. Also, my new B.I.L will be my fiances Best Man, so in the midst of planning his own wedding he will be part of ours and vice versa (fiance in his too)
Other than that it really shouldnt be a problem. Unless one or the other is having a destination wedding where they expect the whole family to come, they can be planned separate.
2006-11-19 16:15:09 · answer #4 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two months is close but my sister and I are getting married 13 days apart. My uncle is going to Afganistan a few weeks after we get married so we had to choose, get married close together or one of us had to wait 2 years until he got back. We decided that we could make it work and are having out weddings really close to each other. The best advice I can give is to make each wedding your own. Make it totally different from each other. I am having a traditional church ceremony and she is getting married outside. Make sure you make your day special for you!! As for the family it is hard to travel within 2 months of each other so maybe you could get the message to them that if they came that would be enough of a gift. That way they dont have to spend money on a flight and a gift. Good Luck and remember to that this day is all about you and dont let it stress you out!!
2016-05-22 06:12:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will be getting married in the same month with my soon-to-be-brother in law. There's no objection from the family, for we mind our own business (having everything is arranged and paid by ourselves) and my fiancé and I live in the same town with his parents (his brother lives out of town anyway).
2006-11-19 21:08:38 · answer #6 · answered by Jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they had better have their weddings several more months apart - for the benefit of everyone.
2006-11-19 22:40:05 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had 20 years in the bridal industry so trust me when I tell you too....... stay clear away from both weddings and only help when asked.
2006-11-19 14:03:13 · answer #8 · answered by HummerBabemv 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
THERE SHOULD BE NO PROBLEM WITH ANY PLANNING . THE WEDDINGS ARE A MONTH APART THA ONLY DOWNSIDE IS THE FINANCIAL END. SO MUCH SPENT IN A SHORT TIME. IF YOU NEED MORE DETAILS EMAIL ME
2006-11-19 14:05:02 · answer #9 · answered by sammi girls mom 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats a load of cow dung.
you should tell them to make it maybe on the same day together.
but if its one of em is your friend and one is your realitive, it doiesn't matter to you, just attend em
2006-11-21 01:28:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋