My girlfriend of 2 years cheated on me 8 months ago. I was devastated. I was hurt and most of all really angry. Even though we are still together not a day goes by that I dont think about it and that it hurts me. I always have this questions going around my head. Mostly a lot of why's? Why did she do this to me? Why did she lied to me? Why didnt she respect me enough to just to be truthful to me and tell me the truth? Why? Why? She never answers my questions, mostly is like she wants to leave it in the past but I cant. How can someone tell you they love you, when they are loving someone else? Now I am really angry. I find myself with no patience for her. Sometimes I get so angry that I pick fights with her just to scream at her. I dont really know if I love her anymore or just dont want to be alone. I dont believe anything that comes out of more and dont have any respect for her as a person, woman or anything. I care for her and sometimes I find myself just planing my revenge.
2006-11-19 13:50:40 · 32 answers · asked by onelia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dude. You need to leave her NOW. You're never going to be happy in this relationship. She'll do it again, I PROMISE. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
2006-11-19 13:53:34 · answer #1 · answered by It's Me 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I went throu kinda the same thing... my 3 yrs bf cheated on me and I tried to look up for all those answers you want. We are still together also and I know it is hard to forget, but its not hard to forgive and you gotta start by doing that. I read a lot about cheating and what couples survive a betrail... and those that did survive were because the one that cheated tried really hard to make it up and make things better. I think your girlfriend should answer your questions and talk throu your anger and make you feel confident she wouldnt do it again and that she is sorry and that she loves you... Its also important you ask her why she did it and try to understand why she did (within reason of course). I think you gotta think well if you love her and if you want to try make it work. Althou by what you are saying it doesnt seem like you do and if you don´t... just brake it off. If you love her and you want to make it work then you gotta be sure she wants the same... because if she treats you like she's now it seems she doesnt want to make it up to you and then it'll never work and you'll just end up even more hurt.
2006-11-19 14:06:04 · answer #2 · answered by Aija 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she wants to rule over you. You better run as fast as you can away from her. There are a whole lot more women out there to choose. If you leave her then there will be no regrets. Seeking revenge is what everybody wants to do but if your smart get away from her. Since she is cheating on you, that means that she doesnt like you and she doesnt want to do with you anymore. Go out and try to find someone else!
2006-11-19 13:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by rusteeford 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has been 7 years since I divorced my cheating husband after 20 years of marriage. I still would love to see his name in the obituary section of the paper.
To be honest, we talk and get along well now. We have both remarried and have our children in common. I would never do anything to hurt him because of the kids.
It took me two years of divorce support groups to finally understand how he used me and lied to me. I now know it was not all my fault as he always said. I am really much happier now.
It takes a long time to get over the betrayal. You will never trust that person again. You will find it difficult to trust anyone at first.
2006-11-19 13:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have unresolved issues with this topic which means that you will never be able to move forward. Of course u think about what she did everyday cause it still hurts which meeans you nerver TRULY got over it. I say u need to leave her cause you arent happy and u dont trust her. Happiness trust and communication builds a good relationship. Find someone that makes you happy all the time.
2006-11-19 13:57:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you can't get over because you don't have closure. You don't have all the answers you need. Second of all, you probably really don't want to know the why's. This may sound corny, but I have found it to be true. The best revenge is living well. Dump her, find someone else, close that chapter of your life and mark it down as a learning experience.
2006-11-19 13:55:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It takes time. You need to let in to by talking to her about it. If you are between 16-21 she will not be your only girl unless you want it to be. You'll eventually move on to someone who you truly satisfy. WHen girls cheat there are many reasons but when guys do it it means nothing. That is just how our brains work. Try to find out why she did it. I have cheated on my exes because they were not satisfying me and I was satisfying them it was not always sexual. I wanted someone to talk to more often and I found him; therefore, I cheated. I wanted more sex and i found it and again I cheated. I wanted someone who kissed better and found it and cheated. I realize that nothings going to please me 100% and decided to settle for some one decent or close enough to my needs.
You need to talk it out with no arguing and doing it back to her is not going to make U feel any better. If you need to move on do so. maybe Youre afraid of being alone and want to keep her. Stay friends with her and if you find it in your heart to forgive her and get it over then go for it.
2006-11-19 13:58:54 · answer #7 · answered by Junia Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are still feeling this way(like this happened yesterday)after 8 months, maybe its time for you to separate...at least temporarily
you deserve to know why she betrayed you in such a way not only so you can deal with the situation but also so you can look at yourself to see if she has needs that you haven't met
For her to not come totally clean with you and answer all of your questions, you will never be able to properly mend your relationship
I'm here to testify...at the best, you will never trust a cheating mate again even if you can forgive them.
2006-11-19 14:01:11 · answer #8 · answered by kimandchris2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just asked a similar question on her. I found out tonight that the guy I was dating is back with his exgirlfriend after telling me that he is not. All I can say is that it sucks. And it will make you question all relationships you are with after this one. You'll never really trust her again. I guess I'm just a bitter girl right now, but do what I'm going to do...walk away.
2006-11-19 14:00:46 · answer #9 · answered by Cat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are feeling this angry, then I would get out. Yes it is possible to to stay together even if someone cheats, but it sounds like it is still tearing you up inside. I would end the relationship.
2006-11-19 13:53:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know this is very corny, but I try to tell myself that I am better than that.I don't need someone who isn't gonna respect me. I don' t need to be dragged down like that by anyone. Its hard, but sometimes it works. The person who cheats is weak and has a low self esteem. They need to feel like something because they feel that they are nothing and need to prove themselves otherwise.
2006-11-19 13:55:47 · answer #11 · answered by Andigurl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋