Boyfriend of ten months broke up with me. I haven't done anything wrong, he's just young and hasn't been in a steady, long relationship. The last few weeks have been rough cause i tend to vocalize problems, to try to work them out together to get past them. He told me to do that, but when i do it, he gets angry and says i'm getting on his nerves. MAny times i should have broken up with him, but I kept holding on, trying to make it work. Anyone that knows of our relationship says i shouldn't even be with him, as i can do much better. I didn't listen. So why does it hurt so much?
2006-11-19 13:31:34 · 20 answers · asked by smooches! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Boyfriend of ten months broke up with me. I haven't done anything wrong, he's just young and hasn't been in a steady, long relationship. The last few weeks have been rough cause i tend to vocalize problems, to try to work them out together to get past them. He told me to do that, but when i do it, he gets angry and says i'm getting on his nerves. MAny times i should have broken up with him, but I kept holding on, trying to make it work. Anyone that knows of our relationship says i shouldn't even be with him, as i can do much better. I didn't listen. So why does it hurt so much?
Oh yeah, when i say vocalize problems,i mean showing him something that he's doing that i don't like and that may hurt the relationship...eg. not listening to me or my opinions...
2006-11-20 01:57:37 · update #1
If this guy becomes defensive and agressive if you try to speak to him chances are he is hiding something and fears exposure. He is not good enough for you. Communication is all in a relationship. You have given him too many chances. I know exactly what you are saying have been there myself and thing is these kind of guys are incabable of relationships in the true sense as they are scared of intimacy...as in the revealing of themselves. Move on there are much better out there. What is hurting is your pride.......most of all.......you keep bruisingit by allowing him to reject you. Be strong now and reject him for the last time.
2006-11-19 19:28:45 · answer #1 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you were with him 10 months, while thats not an extremely long time it is a fair bit of time to be with someone, so I am guessing that you had developed some depth of feeling for him. You are probably missing him to some extent. Whether or not it is love is unclear (you havent clarified whether you loved him or not) but judging by the tone of your post it appears that there werent very deep feelings between you.
Based on THAT assumption, i am guessing that at least 70 per cent of the "hurt " you are feelings is your ego.. we ALL like to do the dumping, we prefer to be the "dumper" not the "dumpee", even if we are glad to be out of the relationship.
That might be why you feeling quite so bad. But without further information on how YOU FELT about the guy (you told us how other people felt about your r'ship but not much about YOUR feelings), its hard to give you a definitive answer.
2006-11-19 23:28:52 · answer #2 · answered by Chimera's Song 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's building life experience. You need to go through the heart ache so you learn not to make the same mistake again. I'm sorry to refer to your relationship with this guy as a mistake but you know you should have broken up with him so you know you made a mistake by not doing so.
By dating and having these relationships you learn who is the right kind of person for you to spend the rest of your life with.
Remember, no man is worth your tears, but the one who is won't make you cry.
2006-11-19 21:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by merihell75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not take your relationship with him too seriously. Just be an ordinary friend and try to understand each other. Learn how to communicate and let your relationship with him be built on mutual understanding and love. But before you know him well, just treat him as a normal friend. It takes time for both of you to grow and mature in relationship. So don't take it too hard.
2006-11-19 21:47:32 · answer #4 · answered by AH HA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not ready to be in a serious relationship. Try to move on, as hard as that may be. Listen to your friends, they're telling you to get out of this. They can look at your relationship with open eyes. you're blinded by your emotions. Listen to them. Good luck
2006-11-19 22:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by justcurious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have really loved him and wanted the relationship to last and go somewhere and that's a good thing.Some people listen to their friends and you didn't so that must mean you loved him and cared for him. This is hurting you so much because you didn't want him to go and you tried to work things out but he wouldn't help you with that. The best thing is you tried and it's not your fault it's over and don't worry about it he may come back to you because he may realize that you cared and loved him and that he cares for you and loves you.
2006-11-19 21:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by *be_23* 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, at first you are going to be hurting because you feel something for this guy, but just wait... and sooner or later you will feel allot better. trust me. i kinda had the same thing happen to me but not with the resolving of the problems, but with the fact that sometimes he would just not tell me what he would do or where he would be. and now it's been 2 years... i've gotten over him. :)
2006-11-19 21:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by TiGgEr_LoVeR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because love does hurt when you break up with someone. Even if you have been told you can do much better it does not stop you loving him. Don't worry you will get over him soon and you will find someone who loves you and treats you better.
2006-11-20 03:57:28 · answer #8 · answered by Reaper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it hurt so much coz you love him very much...if you love someone so much its hard 4 you to let him go... d's poem is 4 u...
===Why Did You Hurt Me===
From the moment we met,
I thought it was true,
But then you turned out to be,
So ungodly cruel.
I made a mistake,
Falling for you,
You cheated and played,
And hurt me too.
The pain was so bad,
All I did was cry,
My love for you,
Burned down and died.
You told me you loved me,
And that I was your star,
You told me you loved me,
With all of your heart...
I trusted you,
I told you things,
You always held,
My hopes and dreams.
You were my energy,
My shooting star,
You hurt me so bad,
You broke my heart.
I can't help but think,
How stupid I was,
I don't want to leave you,
Just because...
I love you so much,
But I can't bare the pain,
I can't stay with a cheater,
Who lost in his own game.
You tell me I'm not strong enough,
To leave and walk away,
You tell me I'm not strong enough,
So I might as well stay...
You didn't have to hurt me,
The way that you did,
You didn't have to hurt me,
You are such a dick!
2006-11-19 22:20:05 · answer #9 · answered by ashly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ending of a relationship is always hard, but focus on yourself and cut the ties with him. You will get over him, he probably didn't deserve you anyway.
2006-11-19 21:33:52 · answer #10 · answered by candym 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋