what is going on here ladies?

Question

if a girl is happy in her new relationship . . would she still be calling her ex that she dumped for this new guy every couple weeks? . . .even though he hasnt answered or sent her something back in 4 months? and she still tries to contact him . . also . . can girls act completely happy on the outside and really be torn up on the inside? is there any way to tell if a girl is feeling like that? . . and if she wanted her ex back why would she still be with me and acting fine? why wouldnt she go back to him? maybe because she dumped him and doesnt know if he will take her back? they did go out for 2 1/2 years so i dunno . .. whats goin on?
and she hasnt told me that shes been calling him . . . and we have been dating since april and have been in an actual relationship for like 2 months . . . how long would she use me as a rebound if thats what i am? wouldnt it be over by now? it been about a month since she called him now since she was calling him. . . so maybe she will stop . . .
then just today she sent an email to him . . . it was this

hey! i just wanted to tell you that i hope you had a good birthday. i was going to call but i figured you wouldnt answer like usual or stop by and give you a card but you would have probably acted like you werent home lol. so i hope you had a good one. it would really mean a lot if you just sent something back lettin me know how ya were doin and stuff...i'de really appreciate it (name)! kayyy bye. . .

so if he hasnt responded to her since june why is she still trying to get ahold of him . . . when he hasnt responded since june?

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34 minutes ago
and then she just sent this message to him today


"look i know that you are getting my messages...i really just dont understand why you cant even say hi or something?? can you honestly please just give me a reason, like if it still upsets you or something, i mean thats fine. i just figured you could atleast do that for me...so please?"

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21 minutes ago
i should also add that she has been calling/texting him since the begginning of july . . . he tried to get her back for 2 months after she broke up with him. . . they broke up for no reason . .. she just told him she wanted to date around .. . . and she texted him on what would have been there two year anniversary and reminded him of it

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16 minutes ago
then about 3 weeks she sends another one that says this

hey (name)!! hows it goin? boy, youve sure been hard to get a hold of lately! i was thinkin about stoppin by sometime, so unless i hear otherwise from you ill see you soooon!! k byeee!!

Answer 1

She has unfinished business with him, but it sounds like he isn't interested. She is making a fool of herself AND you. You should not have to share her affection and attention with this other guy. If she were really content with the relationship, she would have let him go by now. This is not to say she doesn't like you, but she needs to get over her emotional issues with this guy before she can commit herself to a serious relationship with you. If you're not ready to let her go entirely, at least tell her you are going to step away for a while and give her time to deal with her feelings for him. This may be exactly what she needs (realizing she's giving up on a good guy to pursue a lost cause). It's also what YOU need to retain your self respect. As long as she can obsess about this guy and still have you waiting for her, she will continue to do it.

Answer 2

I would wonder why they really broke up. She sounds unhealthy and obsessed with him. Unfortunately it sounds like she's with you because some people just can't be alone. You certainly deserve better than this.

I agree with Nicole...run away!

Answer 3

Kind of obvious that she still has feelings for him. Either that or she's obsessed with him.

Answer 4

RUN (not walk) AWAY.