2006-11-19 13:07:51 · 7 answers · asked by Cinnamon 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We're skipping a lot of things! We are really trying to consider every element of a typical wedding to decide if they're actually things we want to do.
So far we're skipping:
-the unity candle (redundant and boring)
-the march of the clones (matching bridal party)
-the flower girl (neither of us is close to a little girl so why have a place filler?)
-spending a ton of money on a dress (i'm going to try to rent one because i'm not very sentimental about objects and every married woman that i know has an old, yellowing, too small dress in her closet that cost way too much money to wear once.)
-the limo (we think it's a bit much... we want to focus to be on what matters!)
-the bouquet and garter toss thing
-the cake cutting drama (in fact, we may not even have a cake because we both prefer other kinds of desserts)
-the annoying DJ who sets the tone of the reception
-the rap music and bumping and grinding
-the forced dances between attendants (seriously, it's so stupid, they aren't couples!)
-the tulle-wrapped favors at each place setting (because they clutter the table.. we might have some kind of edible favor on a separate table though.)
-the alcohol (the first thing we do as a married couple will not be to get drunk! we're also completely against drinking and driving and don't want to condone that [because people WILL drink and drive no matter what you do])
-the annoying photographer (they always get in the way and break the flow of the event to pose shots. we prefer candids and digital photography so we're going to find a talented student or friend to do it for us)
There are probably things that I am forgetting but that gives you an idea! It sounds like we're just really cheap but that's not the case. We've just been to so many identical weddings full of thoughtless actions and waste. We want things to be elegant, simple and meaningful. I hope you'll really think about things too and do things just the way you'd love! Good luck and congrats!
2006-11-19 16:18:03 · answer #1 · answered by Jaclyn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't really skip anything, but I did shop frugally. We got married at 1pm, so by the time we got to the reception, it was around 3pm and nobody wanted a full meal. People would eat lunch at home before they came to the wedding. So, we had finger sandwiches, a veggie tray and fruit tray. It was perfect. I also used all silk flowers. Not just because live ones are so expensive, but because I have allergies. The dollar store had BEAUTIFUL flowers that I used. Also, I got the 'crystal' wine goblets for the wedding party at the dollar store. They looked like and crystal and nobody ever knew. We used fancy paper products that we just threw away at the end of the reception. Available at any party store. The baskets I used for my cards and my flower girls were bought at a thrift store. I hot glued some silk flowers on them and they looked like a pro did it. A friend arranges flowers as a hobby and she did all my flowers. I just bought them and gave her a list of what I needed. She did an amazing job and I sent her a gift card as a thank you. A friend makes cakes as a hobby and our cake was her wedding gift to us. I showed her a picture of what I wanted, and she did it. We also kept the guest list to about 60 people. Much more intimate and you actually get to talk to all your guests. I was able to dance with every single person twice!
2006-11-19 21:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by loyerd6 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The garter toss and bouquet toss are a little outdated. Most couples are choosing to take those out of their reception schedule.
2006-11-20 08:30:36 · answer #3 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well we aren't skipping but we are skimping on the dinner menu to save some $. Is that why you are looking to skip things, to save money? I am making alot of things too... veil, ring bearer pillow, flower girl basket, small bridal party, no limo...
2006-11-19 21:35:35 · answer #4 · answered by melodi_jean_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A big wedding cake. I will be using cupcakes instead. Instead of a huge spread sandwiches and a cru de te platter & NO BAR!
2006-11-20 06:44:06 · answer #5 · answered by Julia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we skipped the cake cutting, the bouquet toss and the garter belt - because they weren't important to us.
2006-11-19 22:04:14 · answer #6 · answered by Chrys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bouquet/garter toss it's tacky
any line dances (cha cha slide, electric slide, macarena etc)
2006-11-20 09:02:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋