What is the right way to end your young child from whining excessively?

Answer 1

The best, and hardest way to stop whining is to not give in. I have bigtime issues with listening to crying and whining, and one day when I realized that my son was a whiner because of me, I stopped giving in and things are much better. Of course, the whining will continue, probably until they are out of High School(lol) but the amount of time you have to listen to them not getting their way will grow less and less.

Answer 2

First off, make sure your child understands exactly what you mean by "whining." You might want to tape record them whining a few times and then play it back. You can also "pretend whine" to get your point across; just don't overdo it or it will turn into a joke.*

Then let them know you don't like whining and it will no longer work to get them what they want.

Then STICK TO IT. When the whining starts, say, "You're whining." Children aren't always aware of their own actions, so just pointing it out may be enough. Then, since whining usually starts when a child doesn't get what they wanted the first time, say something like, "Whining won't change my mind."

Sticking to it is THE most important thing. Remember, ever action you take teaches your child something, and your actions always send a stronger message than words. If you sit them down and say "no whining," and then a week later give in just ONE TIME, you've now taught them the rule "no whining, except sometimes it's okay."

*This does work with some kids, though. I have one 4-year-old student who whines constantly; the whining is usually a precursor to a tantrum. But if I mock him and whine right back, it becomes something funny and not something for him to get upset about. Usually (not always) I can prevent a tantrum that way. But that's a special case.

Answer 3

I guess it depends on how young your child is.
When my 2 year old whines I place her in a spot in the livingroom. She comes back after shes done her "issue". My 5 and 7 year old have the option to stop or go spend a few minutes in their room.
I do not give into whining children.
I do check their reasons before I stick to any choice I have made.
I also noticed my 2 y/o whines less if she gets a nap daily.

Answer 4

my daughter is almost 3 and oh my word can she and does she whine. i dont want to sound hopeless but i have found that nothing really works if she feels like whining. when my daughter is whining i give her 2 choices stop whining and talk to mommy like a big girl or go to the timeout stair (she sits on the stairs). sometimes it works like a charm and other days i dont think she would care about the consequence she is going to whine. i am holding on to her growing out of it so hold on and remember "that which does not kill us will make us stronger". i dont know about you but after the whining stage is over i will be very very very very strong. good luck and be consistent and strong you are the one in charge.

Answer 5

Talk to the child about whining and how it's not allowed. Then don't give them anything they whine for. At first you can let them rephrase it if they whine for it, but after you've been doing this for awhile make them ask right the first time. For example if they whine for candy, they don't get candy, even if you were going to give it anyway and even if they rephrase it. Only do that when you feel your child is ready for it, though. At the moment we allow my daughter to rephrase her whining if she wants to have something.

Answer 6

I tell my daughter that I do not speak whine. It gets her attention. I ask her to then repeat what she just said without whining. It works really well, I think she whines less than other kids her age because it doesn't get her any attention from me.

Answer 7

time out.
we put our daughter in the corner. some think it is mean but it works great. she stopps almost immediatly every time. even in a store, we will make her stand facing the cart for thirty seconds. she dislikes it so much she will stop whining. of course the same thing does not work on every child. ours get over and says sorry and is good after the

Answer 8

I've found that most whining is because they are tired and/or hungry....or simply want you to spend some time with them. So food, nap, or some one-on-one with you are my recommendations. That ususally stops the whining.

Answer 9

Don't start giving in to the whining.

Answer 10

Take away privileges until the whining stops.