Years ago, my Father-in-law remarried, and his new wife refused to let him have anymore to do with "his" family because SHE wasn't welcomed into the family the way she thinks she should have been. Over the years, my hubby has tried to have contact with him, but SHE always stepped in and put a stop to it. Anyhow, we just found out 2 months ago, that she put him in a nursing home. We found out by "coincidence". She never notified his family at all. Well, today, hubby went to the nursing home, and signed his father out for a few hours to spend some time with him, and take him to dinner. His wife somehow found this out, and ordered the nursing home to have him returned IMMEDIATELY!! They tracked my hubby down, and told him to bring his father back. So he did. When he got back, they told him that SHE (his father's wife), has left STRICT orders, that he is not permitted to see his father again!! What would be the next step to take? What is my hubby's legal rights?? Can she do this???
2006-11-19 12:28:05 · 11 answers · asked by Jillybeanyweiney 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would like to add that his father has dementia, but does remember certain things. Sort of like flashbacks when he sees something or someone familiar to him. So......he's unable to really discuss his "desires" at this point.
2006-11-19 12:50:18 · update #1
wow - my heart certainly goes out to you - she sounds like if wicked stepmother was to be put in dictionary her picture should be beside it
but the fact is, those kids were in his life before her ..... unless he is completely unable to communicate - the father should be able to speak his desires himself.........
best better check on the legal status of any property or income he has, cos most likely a "nice" person like this has also seen to it that she has the say in any of that as well .....
most likely he has been persuaded that you have not had the desire or made effort to contact him, appears that could not be farther from the truth, unless he has signed papers otherwise you have legal rights also.
best wishes to all of you for life is too short for such waste of time and relationships!
2006-11-19 12:37:45 · answer #1 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, the wife has say so for EVERYTHING! You have no rights. And this is an extremely hard fact to except. I don't know of any state where the wife doesn't assume POA. Unless you can prove abuse, fidelity or separation. As annoying and hurtful this is, remember one thing, she can never take away the father/son bond. Let the dust settle. Hopefully someday she will be more realistic. For now, step aside. She would have to live with the guilt, not you.
2006-11-19 12:44:09 · answer #2 · answered by Victoria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family first pal...Give this woman a little street justice by committee then have your attorney deal with her on her level. If you take the bait, you will probably lose. You also have your dad who can elicit a statement of competence that would allow him to oversee decisions, agreements, power of attorney decisions, etc. these are called different things in different states. Good luck, We just ended a 3 year issue ourselves that had similar issues.
2006-11-19 13:32:02 · answer #3 · answered by Cpn Ron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kyle Petty?!! You hafta be kidding. additionally, I keep in mind Mark Martin a pair years in the past saying that a million/2 the adult adult males on the music don't have a license tocontinual, no longer to mentioncontinual in NASCAR. additionally, somebody certainly pronounced Stewart, lmao. i could ought to circulate with Carl Edwards, Burton, Kahn.
2016-11-25 20:27:04 · answer #4 · answered by ciprian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
contact a lawyer that deals in "family law". Do some research on your own. Also find out the laws in your state.
2006-11-19 13:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by lifes a peach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have something in writing, like a living will? That should state how he wants to be taken care of and who the executor is. He should have someone listed that is to make those decisions.
2006-11-19 12:32:53 · answer #6 · answered by mga1550 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is legally his next of kin so she has that right...however if the father is of sane mind im sure he could make demands of his own....i would continue to try to stay in touch....even if it means speaking to her......hopefully even she can see the value that the relationship between a father and son has.....i would also seek legal advise to find out where you stand...dont give up it is his father....
2006-11-19 12:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consult an attorney. This is so not right, you need professional help. I hope thing work out for you and your husband.
2006-11-19 12:32:58 · answer #8 · answered by mom of 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the advice already given.........get an attorney
2006-11-19 12:37:38 · answer #9 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to call cousin Guido. Sorry, but I don't think he can do anything until she's dead.
2006-11-19 12:30:19 · answer #10 · answered by It's Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋