Is this O.K to do?!?

Question

So i had a boyfriend for seven months and we broke up on Oct. seventh....i've stayed in contact with him a little, but my mom says im not allowed to talk to him any more...she says he's a bad influence but she's never talked to him, she only hears what people say about him, but everything everyone says is a lie...but she wont listen to me and i am really mad, and she just took my phone away because my brother said i was planning on calling him...i dont think its right to tell someone they cant speak to someone...to me its just wrong! so is there anyone out there who knows if this is O.K or not?

i need some advice as to what i should do...i want to just call him but now that i dont have my cell i cant...and i dont want to disrespect my parents and make them mad, but i really want to see and talk to him again...but they get mad wen ever i just say his name!

Answer 1

you should talk to your mom sit down with her and tell her your reasons for wanting to talk to him. tell her that she hasnt talked to him ever and that not everything people say is true. also tell her talking to him wont lead to you guys getting together or anything and that he is a friend and you would appreciate if she allowed you to talk to him. ask for her trust and that you can handle the situation. dont whine, just be calm and cool, and state your reasons and hear what she has to say and counter some of her statements with logical explanations.

Answer 2

Something in your actions and his have caused concern.

The most immediate contact other than being together that was known was thru the phone therefore justifying what your parent(s) felt needed to be done.

"Everyone" could not be lying. You seem to be deeply involved with this guy so will not allow yourself to see the bad only what seems good to you.
But you must realize we all have more than one side of personality and generally actions.

To disobey your parents for any reason is indeed wrong.
Parents do not thrive on making you unhappy contrary to popular opinion but better understand risk and want you to be happy and as safe as possible.
Follow their lead and give it some time.
If he has been misjudged it will be realized by all, if not - then you will better understand what others may have already known.

Each time you argue about him just states to your parents that you trust his opinion more than theirs.

If it is meant to be - will work out ..... otherwise learn from the experience!

Answer 3

How old are you? Your living in there home? And do you know that everything EVERYONE says is a lie? Not everyone would lie about 1 boy would they? And maybe the mom and dad if they don't know him should have him over and ask a few questions. Hunny iv been there and i wish my mom said no and took away my phone.

Answer 4

My step daughter is 14 and I say you should try talking to your parents again about this guy if you really like him and then if that doesn't work set up a time to go to the mall with the girls and have meet you there and talk to him. Because if you let it go you'll never know what could have been.

Answer 5

If you are looking for people to tell you what you want to hear, I think you are in the wrong place. I doubt the whole neighborhood is lying about this guy. You are living in your mother's home. What she says, goes. I won't try to tell you not to try to talk to him, but I think your mom probably has her reasons for not wanting you to talk to this guy. You broke up with him, right? Move on. And remember, believe it or not, your mom really cares about your well-being. She isn't out to make your life miserable.

Answer 6

your mom is older and wiser than you .she would be wise enough to not listen to people telling her these things if she thought it might not be the truth so listen to mom and let this one go .there are lots of nice people just waiting to meet you. your mom is doing this because she loves you and wants the best for you at all times . sit back for a while and see if you can find someone he was going out with before you and ask them what he's really like

Answer 7

Right gurlie if you really want to see him or talk to him just tell your parents how you feel about him because never know they might let you go see him or they might give your cell back.... but honestly gurlie i carnt say that they will let you but im saying that they might.... just tell them that they carnt change the way you fell about him yous are mates and thats cruel taking your kids mates away from them and just cause they hear stuff about him dosent mean he is like how people say hes like... k gurlie just have faith....

Answer 8

If you are old enough to have a boyfriend, I think you are old enough to make your own decisions. Your parents should trust you that you won't let your (ex) bf control you. You should be able to decide if a guy is worth your time. THat should be good enough for them. Your parents can't control you. They can give you advice. You can choose whether to take the advice or to leave it.

Answer 9

They're your parents they're doing that 'your still my baby' thing again. Don't get mad at them when they do that, appreciate it and leave a note somewere or email then if they won't let you talk about him, if they still say no, you might want to listen to them, he might be a bad influence but you might not realize it....

Answer 10

your parents need to understand that they cannot choose your boyfriend for you. it's not who they like for you, it's who you choose for yourself. you need to talk to them about that. plus they can't always believe what they hear. the only way they will know that he is a bad influence is if they see him doing something wrong. i think you should call him if you really love him. i had to go against my parents word just to get my point across. so go for it!