Does sex hurt the first time????????????????
I think im ready to have sex and I have talked to my mom and she said that when Im ready to go ahead, and I have been even talking to my boyfirend and he said that he would go SLOW and make sure it didnt hurt. what should I do i dont know if it hurts or not??????????????
2006-11-19 12:14:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It does hurt a little. Just tell him to go slow and give your body a chance to get used to him. Lubricating jelly (KY etc) is helpful too. Believe me, you won't be feeling pain for too long.
2006-11-19 12:18:18 · answer #1 · answered by faeriemagik 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Think very carefully and make sure that you are really ready for this. NEVER feel pressured. It is your body and no one has rights to it but you. Also, you aren't someone's toy or an experience for them to enjoy.
Having said that, there is pain, but the pain can be lessened if there is proper foreplay. Foreplay is crucial in sex for women because we do not respond the same way as men. Let's say, men are gas stoves, ready in an instant, and women are electric stoves; the burner has to warm up first! If he is not willing to excite you to the point where this is not a big decision and you just can't wait to do it, do not do it. It means he is not a considerate lover, and an inconsiderate lover can tend to be inconsiderate in many other areas of a relationship. You also have a complete right to orgasm. In fact, having one before the actual penetration is a good idea. Kinda loosens and wettens things up for you. If you don't have one during the actual sex, then he should make sure to finish things up for you. For some women, it isn't easy, but a man who cares about a woman will make absolutely sure she has one. And, also, if the experience is unsatisfactory, a good man will listen to your concerns and work with you to make it an enjoyable one. This may seem to be off topic, but believe me, the first sexual experience can have a serious effect on the rest of your sex life, so he should do everything he can to make it good. Once again, if he doesn't seem worried about your pleasure, do not do it.
Be absolutely sure to use a condom, and lubrication can really help this, especially if you are nervous, which can lead to a lack of lubrication, even if you feel ready. Take this decision seriously, and if you decide it's right, I hope it's everything you wish for.
2006-11-19 20:34:46 · answer #2 · answered by irie.girl_2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WAAAAAIIIIIIIIIITTTTTTTT!!!!!!!!!! Stop, Think, STOP, THINK! Is it worth it? Huh? To have to walk around with a boulder on top of your hips for nine months and go through excruciating pain ( childbirth) and probably have a father for the baby that will just walk out on you anyway. I mean, how many teenage guys want to say
" Sure, I'll throw away my whole social life so I can take care of a girl ( who I didn't love or respected) and her child."
I mean, what kind of guy is gonna do that? I know they're out there, but not likely. You need to wait, marrige honey is the only reason. Some people look at this subject ( sex) as casual and nothing to worry about. WRONG! It's something that takes time. Just because you think you're mature enough for it, and maybe your mom, dosen't mean you are. You have to be emotional, finacially, and well, READY to deal with it all. I mean, do you love him, honestly, think rationally.
2006-11-19 20:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by VandyViolin09 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The anxious feeling that you have is probably what will cause it to hurt if it does. Just try to relax as much as possible and you should be fine. The only way to find out if it will hurt is to do it. If you're ready, then go for it. It won't hurt the whole time but you might find that you think it's worth it. Best of luck
2006-11-19 20:26:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well everyone is different but honestly the first time usually for most women isnt the best feelingin the world. you arent going to be in excrusiationg pain or anything but think about it...if nothing has ever been there its going to have to stretch a little bit. if youre ready then you should do it, and if you are try to relax as much as possible i know that sounds really hard but the more tense and nervous you are the more uncomfortable youll be...good luck
2006-11-19 20:17:56 · answer #5 · answered by Nikoale 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It hurts and will probably hurt the few first times you do it. Over time you'll start to enjoy it. As long as your boyfriend knows when to stop if it starts hurting too much for you, you'll be fine.Good luck!!
2006-11-19 20:20:54 · answer #6 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait till you married then you and your husband can deal with the situation. Any mother that would tell her daughter to "go ahead" has no concept of the diseases that can happen, the unwanted pregancies or psycological harm it could do.
2006-11-19 20:17:58 · answer #7 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not goin to lie ..but yeah it can be a little uncomfortable at first ... but then u get use to it .. and it is smooth sailin from there .. make sure u are really turned on..so make sure he does not skip the foreplay, and when u are really ready ..do it ..but start off slow ..good luck...oh yeah make sure he is the ONE ..because i am sure every female would agree ..... we wish we were still virgins ..or had givin it to someone who was worth it
2006-11-19 20:20:33 · answer #8 · answered by lezbianflava 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will hurt, and you will probably bleed a little bit aftewards, so bring a light pad.
2006-11-19 20:17:23 · answer #9 · answered by fruitnroo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-19 20:16:44 · answer #10 · answered by johnnymifo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋