In the beginning, I always used to think she was just teasing when she made such allegations. But she just goes on and on, harping away about this crap. She doesn't get mad at me or raise her voice but, it's gotten to the point where it's not funny anymore. She even accuses me of having sexual relations with girls who are underage, something which makes me blow a gasket. My Russian tutor is 17 and I go to her house once a week for lessons, but her mother is usually there, and besides, I would never do something which was illegal and even such a suggestion could put me in danger.
...aside from this, our relationship is still in high gear (we still have sex and all). I just get fed-up with her baloney.
Are all women this jealous? And should I just dump this b--ch? After all, any girl who is that insecure and distrustful of her man could never possibly be happy in a marriage, since marriages are built on trust.
2006-11-19 11:56:13 · 18 answers · asked by Student 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont think you should ditch her *** right away...lol she sounds like shes VERY insecure and maybe you should bring it up, find out why shes like this and try to help her through it if thats what you want as well. many girls go through this and 9 times out of 10 have reasons although we shouldnt use it as an excuse... but talk to her about it and if you really and truely wanna be with her explain to her that she has nothing to worry about...good luck
2006-11-19 12:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by Nikoale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may very well be insecure. Make sure she knows the situation with the tutor. Second, maybe find a male tutor. A lot of movies give foreign exchange students a bad name(assuming your tutor is Russian).
A good guide is "avoid the appearance of evil." Look at the situation from her point of view. If she went to tutor with a hot guy and there was the chance they could be alone for a few hours. Many times if a guy has even the perceived opportunity to cheat will eat at a woman. Trust and security is the most important thing to a woman.
No offense, but sex in itself does not imply a healthy long term relationship. I have heard that some girls give sex because they want love, a deep personal connection. Men are more physical, women want emotional intimacy.
Deemphasizing the physical relationship will allow the emotional intimacy to develop. This is what will build a real and lasting relationship. A relationship built on physical intimacy (sex) will only survive as long as there is sexual attraction between the couple. Personally, I recommend to save the sexual relationship for after the marriage. It will save unnecessary tension and pressure.
2006-11-19 12:18:49 · answer #2 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has "trust issues". She probably got hurt in the past and shes afraid you'll do the same. Don't get me wrong, most girls get jealous over anything, but for her to keep going on about it seems to me that y'all need to have a serious talk. Let her know exactly how you feel and what your planning on doing if she keeps this up. No one can tell you whether to leave her or not. Thats your decision. If she doesnt want to change all I can say is I wish ya the best of luck!
2006-11-19 12:02:51 · answer #3 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never ever even try to marry her cuz I pomise you it will never work out
Although you have sex all the time I can't see that this relationship going anywhere
You know what to do
and no not all women are jelly
The only reason you are with her is cuz of lust so find someone who will treat you like a king and not a dumpster
2006-11-19 12:00:22 · answer #4 · answered by goody2shoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow,sounds like u are dating a girl that's been majorly burned b4.it shows by her insecurity.i know i was once just like her.when a girl like is constantly accusing u of cheating it's cuz she's either been cheated on so badly in her past & never really gotten over it or she's cheating herself & she's trying to take the attention off of her.it's called transferance.the truth is that only u know what happens behide close doors in ur relationship & the relationships u hav with others but if she's this paranoid then only u know if u wanna spend the rest of ur life living like this.i wish u alot of luck,cuz when it comes to relationships only u know the real answer.
take care.
angela w.
2006-11-19 12:03:55 · answer #5 · answered by angela w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just look at your situation at present. You have to also know and understand her past. Although your relationship is in high gear, if she was cheated before, then you need to make effort on gaining that trust. If she knew that you were a playboy before, then that would definitely complicate things. Nevertheless, its TRUST and UNDERSTANDING that makes a relationship strong.
2006-11-19 12:17:06 · answer #6 · answered by Rey Arson II 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably don't trust you because she don't trust her self. I had a girl like that and she ended up cheating on me because she thought I was. And your right you can't be happy with a girl like that.You can't change her way of thinking. I think you should move on before her skeletons start to come out of her closet (if you know what I mean).
2006-11-19 12:08:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is built on trust. This lady you have must be very insecure. I would think long and hard before setteling down with someone who probably would never trust me. Good luck and God bless you.
2006-11-19 12:10:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
either she has been with someone who has cheated on her in the past and think that all men are like that, or maybe she has a lil secret herself...maybe she cheats...it's something about this girls past that just strikes me...and she's hiding it well!, she's very insecure and jealous..and all of that had to rise from something...however you need to talk to her, tell her that you can't keep going on like this and that if she can't trust you that you don't need to be together...as simple as that.
2006-11-19 12:27:11 · answer #9 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you love her then no you should not dump her also no not all girls are that jealous im not at all in fact it makes my partner mad sometimes cuz im not but most girls are she is probably just insecure of her self and so to make this problem solved you have to show her that she is the most beautiful girl and the only girl you wanna look at or touch and remind her constantly of you love and tell her to alwas remeber who your going home to and not any of those other girls so that in its self should reasure her that your not cheating
2006-11-19 12:00:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋