I've been dating my gf for a few years now and we are sexually active and im pretty confident that we both love each other. however recently she's told me that she really likes another guy and fantasizes about having sex with him. i didnt mind at first thinking it would go away but instead it got worse. its gotten to the point where when we have sex all she can think about is him. she has even called out his name while we are having sex. i'm really confused about what to do. ive talked to her about it and she says she cant really control it, she is just very physically attracted to him. i dont want to lose her and i dont want her to start cheating on me or anything like that. what can i do?
2006-11-19 11:44:05 · 15 answers · asked by (Insert Name here) 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Accept that nothing long term will come of this. I wouldn't say "leave" because it seems both of you are getting something out of it, but I would be careful not to let your feelings get involved. It will eventually end.
2006-11-19 11:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try doing things together that dont appear to be exercise. Taking walks or bike rides would be a start. A trip to the beach or swimming pool is an option (if both of you arent too self conscious to be seen in a bathing suit). Oddly enough video games have been used to lose weight too. Get a Wii or DDR for a different system and encourage her to play games with you. If you keep an active lifestyle and continue to eat right you may see a difference. Of course, some people are just genetically programmed to be big. If thats the case, maybe try some more exciting sexual endeavors (use your imagination)
2016-03-29 02:02:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's making u think about it that much, then she's not worth it. From the way it sounds she's not interested n u as much anymore. mayb u should sit her down and have a heart to heart conversation with her. Let her know how u really feel.
2006-11-19 11:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is sexually attracted to other people...my father always said as long as you look and don't touch it's ok. It's common for people to fantisize about other people during sex, it's a healthy thing to do.
2006-11-19 11:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mayb... u should start a new sexual skill to make her feel FRESH.
i think she's only a person that like SEX instead of having relationship together with LOVE.
in future, you'll having this problem again, if you've solve this problem.
good luck.
2006-11-19 11:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by peter71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she might want u both to be w/her at the same time. and yes if she really wanted to she can control herself not to call out his name when she is with you.to me this is such disrespect to u. but some people are in to this kind of stuff. so what ever flots your boat.
2006-11-19 11:50:25 · answer #6 · answered by dounut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call out his name during sex, too. Maybe that will shock her back to reality.
2006-11-19 11:47:10 · answer #7 · answered by martino 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your joking right? your girl yells out someones elses name during sex? wtf? and you take that crap? this is not a issue of should she be attracted to someone else sexually, i'm sure we all are attracted to other ppl besides of partners, but she is disrespecting you man. you need to grow a backbone and let her know your not gonna take her crap.
2006-11-19 12:05:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
puts some excitement in your sex life
2006-11-19 11:47:19 · answer #9 · answered by ashkang108 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really likes him and is happy with him then let her go its ofr thee best
2006-11-19 11:46:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋