how do you deal with a mother in law who gets mad at you for everylittle thing we live far away from her and my husband is over thirty but she gets totally mad if he does not call every day do i tell she overbearing or just let it go?
2006-11-19 11:23:04 · 21 answers · asked by mmp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
that is something your husband should be talking to her about. Not an easy thing for son to tell his mother and very few men have the courage to tackle something like that.
If you live far away from her, what is the problem, except the phone calls. I would ignore it if at all possible.
If it is causing problems in your marriage, next time she gets mad at you, explain to her that you will not accept that kind of criticism any longer....but try to be nice.
2006-11-19 11:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let it go. Otherwise it will eat at you and then you will go on something like yahoo answers and ask for advice. Let her get mad at your husband. He has to deal with it. I totally understand what you are going through. Ignorance is the best thing. Try not to answer the phone. And be thankful she is far away. Good luck.
2006-11-19 11:29:35 · answer #2 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you do is, accept the damn mugs, and start putting some away in a box to donate and put the new ones in the cupboard. She thinks she's giving great gifts, so let her think it. Say Thank you and leave it at that. I can give you my mother inlaw for a while and you'll be happy to get yours back.
2016-05-22 05:11:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me just wait and be patient and he will tell her one day. Been there, done that, wasn't married though only b/f/g/f. B/f's mom would call like every hr. on the hr. and ask waht are ya'll doing? That was only b/c she was lonely in her life, husband was out screwing around. One day he got fed up and exploded. Haven't had to worry about that since that day... If he doesn't say anything then, you step in. The vows are, forsake all others. Mom just needs a life. Tell her to join a senior citizen or some leisure club.
2006-11-19 11:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by lovelife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that the phone bills are getting out of control,
Or tell her that your husband needs to let go of the apron strings that she is tugging on so hard.......
Tell her in a nice way that her love for her son is smothering him and he may resent her for it..........
Talk to your husband. She seems to want to make you mad and its working......On the other hand, you don't have to talk to her at all........Let husband tell her how he feels..good luck you will need it.....My husband was an only child!
2006-11-19 11:30:46 · answer #5 · answered by mom of a boy and girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let your husband say it - after all he is her son. If you say anything, you will be labelled as bad or even fall from grace with your husband's side of the family.
And before you ask your husband to say it, just check out how he may react to your suggestion by bringing up the topic of how his mom expects him to call up everyday.
2006-11-19 11:27:26 · answer #6 · answered by estee06 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try to do your best to get along with her. I know that it is very hard my Grandmother was very hard on my Mom and my parents ended up divorced over it. Just grit your teeth and bear it cause many times the Mom-in-Law wins out.
2006-11-19 14:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just take it for what it is. She might get mad and everything but you should just let it go. It;s not as if she has any control over your lives. You shouldn't have to worry about her being upset.
2006-11-19 11:25:02 · answer #8 · answered by ravensfan172003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's overbearing. She shouldn't have to hear from her son that often unless there is some serious illness or situation going on.
2006-11-19 12:14:12 · answer #9 · answered by phoenix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her get mad...it will not kill her.
You and your husband are adults deal with her on your terms and when she acts out break off contact for awhile.
You control your life not her.
2006-11-19 11:28:31 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋