What is the best way to say sorry?

Question

This is going to seem really strange but I need a way to say sorry to my Mam and my Brother. I have upset them for reasons I can't go into but it was on a pretty big scale. Now my Mum has said that she is not very happy with me and wants me to stay out of her way and my Brother is not letting me see my nephew (who is only 7 months old)

I feel really bad about what I have done but I need to put things right before christmas, it'll be awful without them.

PLS HELP!
Thnx

Answer 1

As soon as possible you tell them what you've told us..You realize that you have made a mistake, And are sincerely sorry . Tell them you hope they will forgive you and ask if there is anything you can do to make it up to them. If they need some time and space give it to them. And, pray for yourself and them. I will say a prayer for you tonight. Learn from this mistake. Your mother is not happy with you because you have disappointed her. Tell her you are sorry you disappointed her, and if you can admit it tell her. tell her you've disappointed yourself also. Everyone makes mistakes the healing begins with the apology.

Answer 2

Saying you're sorry takes a lot of courage. You don't need to compensate with material things.
Just admit your fault, apologise sincerely, and say it will never ever happen again. Say you'll love them always, but, being human, you erred and upset them badly. You've learnt your lesson now.
Don't try to hug or kiss, or you'll be rebuffed. This can, and will, happen later. For the moment, only words.
Don't expect an immediate reconciliation if their hurt is really bad. But at least it will make you feel relieved. And, trust me, you'll be a stronger person in your mother's and brother's eyes. And you will get to play with your nephew too.
Go ahead, girl. Take courage. Apologise directly. Things will work out better than you expect.
Care to email me and confide what you did that hurt them so much? I'm a stranger to you, and there's no one I can tell. Might make you feel better. This is a genuine offer, with no mischievous intent. It's up to you.

Answer 3

As always some thought before doing something that will change your relationships with friends and loved ones is ALWAYS the BEST and easiest way to avoid having to say I'm sorry..secondly make apologies in person whenever possible...if not a choice then a sincere complete apology with no justification for your thoughtless action..no qualifications limiting your full and complete apologies..a thoughtful promise to be more considerate in the future...all you can do but if that doesn't succeed at first be persistent until your apology has at least registered with those it was meant to reach..

good luck...hope you see the need to really think things through before acting on them...

Answer 4

Don't just say your sorry, I am sure that they have heard that before. Perhaps if you make an effort to show them by your actions that you are sorry, you can make amends. If they will not let you see your 7 month old nephew then they have their reasons. Before Christmas? Don't set a time limit on regaining their trust. Time takes time. Amends takes time. Once trust is broken, you may never regain it again without serious on your part.

Answer 5

You need to be as sincere as you possibly can. Get to your mother and have her listen. Don't sugar coat anything, lay it on the line and tell her how sorry you are for whatever it was you did. Don't place the blame on anyone or any circumstance. Let her still be angry at you, but in the end, she will respect your for being sincere. The same with your brother, if you are truly sorry, then you will be sure not to let history repeat itself. Being sincere is always the best way to say that you are sorry.

Answer 6

I think the core here is "In a pretty big scale"
There is many things to consider in this problem.
1) are you really sorry? or is this One in a long line of many efforts on your part to make up for what you have done.
2) You cannot control them, or their behaviour, or their reactions.
3) If you are sorry for what you've done then you must free yourself from depending on how they react to your apology.
4) The most large problem is forgiving yourself, that will take time.
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Answer 7

Ask the help of your dad or your sister in law ( if she is willing to help you ) or a relative. Ask them to get your mom and brother in a restaurant or someone's house, then you show up unannounced. Try to make it family only so you wont feel embarrassed in front of someone else. And plea your case to them, admit your mistake and ask their forgiveness. I'm sure your mom and brother won't stay mad at you for ever. Just try to be as honest and as humble as possible . They might say something that will hurt your feelings be prepared for that. Best of Luck

Answer 8

not only before Xmas but now life is to short. a family should always be there for each other. send them both a card tell them how you really feel about them and as a family you should always help one another. love will always conquer all in the end if the love was there to begin with.

Answer 9

I think that you should honestly and humbly say Sorry. I agree that a verbal response is best. I don't think that you should e-mail or IM them.

Show that you are sincere with your actions and things will work out. The truth shall set you free.

Answer 10

just give them some space to calm down,then you can apologise for whatever you did,and try explain why you did it.All you need to do is be geniunely sorry.Speaking as a mom,i have no doubts that your mum and brother will forgive you and you will all have a happy xmas.Good Luck.