I had one casual date w/ this guy. but it sort of turned into a hookup, which i wasnt excpecting. we made out, layed down on the couch, cuddled, then he put his hands inbetween my legs, i had to cross them to tell him no without sayin it! he put his hands on my butt and in my back pocket. we rented a movie so it was all dark and watnot. by the end of the night he talks of his commitment issues. the same night he tells me how much he enjoyed the date and really likes my body, & he wants to have sex really bad cuz i made him horny as hell! he is really good looking but i told him its not gonna work cuz I need commitment, its my virginity were talkin about! he said he lost his but not completely cuz he did ***?! but he went 4 20 minutes??! so he wasnts to "officially" loose it. but he still talks to me & somehow we end up talkin of sext. he thinks it will "entice a relationship between us" BUT I wana date him as it is! he says hes awful @ havin a gf!? we talked for 5 hrs online last night about all of this...I wana find someone else but every time I think of us havin sex I cant help but wana talk to him..he says things like, ‘u turn me on so much on friday, what am i gonna do?!’
2006-11-19 10:32:37 · 13 answers · asked by mysteryonetwothree 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im on birth control to regulate my period
2006-11-19 10:45:04 · update #1
So, you're a virgin? Hold up. That is something really, really special, and in my opinion, you do not want to lose it through some hook up. Sounds like this guy has major commitment issues, and just wants to get in your pants. I mean, hell, he even admitted that he is "awful at having a girlfriend." Sounds like he's trying to seduce you.
You really need to think about what you want. You need to realize that it is a very possible situation that he could have sex with you, then completely ignore you/leave you. Either that or you guys try to work out a relationship and it fizzles. These are very possible outcomes, and if you want to have sex with him, you need to be prepared for the outcomes. If you want to see him again, but don't want to have sex, you need to be vocal about your needs. You need to actively tell him "I don't want you to touch me here, etc, otherwise I'm leaving." He needs to respect you, and he has no right to touch you where you don't want to be touched.
What is this bit about him having sex for only 20 minutes? What? Is he a virgin or not? Sounds like he had sex but he is just trying to down-play it so he can tell you he wants to lose it to you. Sorry, but that just sounds like another way to get you into bed.
It sounds like if you two get together again, something might accidently happen. When things heat up like that, you might end up doing something you didn't intend to do. I just want to really emphasis how important your virginity is, and you really need to keep it for something special. You will always remember your first time. Is this how you want to remember it?
If you do decide to have sex, please use birth control & condoms. And think hard about this, because this guy doesn't sound like he would be staying.
Good luck.
2006-11-19 10:40:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I am a guy and occasionally have had booty calls, and this is what it sounds like. Guys are jerks and will say anything to get in your pants, and I regret how I once was. Look, you are a virgin, and that is very attractive and respectable. Just because a guy is good looking, you shouldn't change what you feel is right. You want a relationship, so go find one. There are other guys out there. And about the sex thing, I'm sensing that you kind of like the thought of having sex with him. But, if you don't want to then don't. There are other ways around having sex, by yourself or with guys, lol. But don't change who you are or what you want. Your virginity should be very special for you, and a true gentleman and somebody that really does love you will not force you into or convince you to have sex.
2006-11-19 10:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush into having sex just because. You have a right to be looking for that committment brfore taking the relationship to that level. Loosing your virginity is a big thing take your time and make sure that YOU are ready.
What a load of crock! He did it for 20 mins then he is no longer a virgin. Once you have done it there is never a first time again.
Spend some time getting to know each other and see where it goes.
Good Luck
2006-11-19 10:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by cailieco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Losing your virginity is a big step, don't rush it. Any guy who genuinely cares for you will wait until you are ready. I don't know if it is an option, but there are other ways to pleasure him besides intercourse. I would say let the relationship pan out for a bit and see how you feel about him as a person and not just about sex.
2006-11-19 10:40:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am a Christian and a guy, and I would prefer to marry a virgin Christian girl, I would have to think about it, if she was a party non-virgin then probably not but if it was like a one-time thing then maybe
2016-05-22 04:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN!!!!! He is most obviously NO good for you. It's hard at your age but men mean what they say. He is saying to you that he doesn't think enough of you to be with you in a relationship. He's the type that as soon as you give in, the "relationship" you've had will end. You will have given yourself to someone who will no longer want to even talk with you unless of course... he wants a booty call in 3 months. I'll say it again... RUN!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-19 10:38:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's cool you keep your boundary's like that.That tells me that your a woman that's faith full and you seem like you would be a good wife to a man you seek.But you should not be scared on telling him how you feel.Keep you respect and you word on your self. I think it is best to know your best friend before you take that next step.Having a commitment is what matters the most.
2006-11-19 10:47:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need someone pressuring you. If he wanted to be committed to you or if he respected you a little bit he wouldn't do that to you. Clearly all he can think about is sex, and if he needs it so bad, surely he can find it somewhere else. Obviously he's making you uncomfortable and he's not worth your time. Cut him loose!!!
2006-11-19 10:41:43 · answer #8 · answered by mikimichaela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think this guy just wants a piece of a$*. He's saying all those things because he knows you respond to them. If a guy genuinely likes you, he would seriously respect the fact that you don't wanna lose your virginity to just any other dude.
2006-11-19 10:38:33 · answer #9 · answered by cha_ch1n6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy is playing on you innocence and you are taking the bait, as soon as he gets what he wants he will move on I am not going to tell you what to do as he is doing that , You are following the bait he is laying down , very time he talks to you it is about sex and it comes a bit more intense, do not let him have his way you have to be stronger than he is
2006-11-19 10:38:21 · answer #10 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋