Whats wrong with me?

Question

I try my best to make everything better, and everything still goes to sh*t. I try to make my family see how much there hurting me, but they dont, i try to help them and they only take advantage of it. Why do I still care though, why am I busting my *ss for nothing? Why is it that I bend over backwards for people then get my heart broke? Why is it that when something finaly goes good, something bad happens to take it away. And please dont tell me that i need counsueling, it dosnt work for me, medication donsn't work either

Answer 1

Counsleling and medications dont work becasue its up to you to view life in a differnt way. I know exactly how you feel. I have fought with depression and family problems since I was 14. And I saw a counsler and I took the anti-depressants and it did nothing for me. Then I started viewing things differently, for example dont think of it as busting your butt for them, think of it as your working for yourself. The more your work, the better you can do, and if the ultimate goal is to move out of your parents house then thats what your busting your butt off for. Sometimes the people that are hurting you dont see it, and no matter what you tell them, they will never see it. Maybe its them that need the counsling. Try not to let life get you down, and keep busting your butt, but dont do it for other people do it for yourself. I know live on my own, away from all the hurt. And now my family doesnt hurt me any more. I work hard every day, and yeah sometimes there are people that take advantage of you, but you will find people in your life that will help you and that genuinly care about you. You just have to give them a chance and trust them. Dont push your self away from everyone in your life because your afraid they might hurt you or that they might be using you. Becuase you might be cheating yourself out of something great. Good luck, and honestly things will get better, it takes time, a lot of time, and there will always be bad things in life, but things do get better.

Answer 2

While it's good to try to help others, you have to be healthy, and you have a RIGHT to be healthy. To do this, sometimes it is necessary to put yourself first. Ultimately, you must balance your family's needs with your own needs; for now, it sounds as though you need to take care of yourself. I have been in your shoes, and I know it's easier to talk about it than to do it, but remember that you are just as worthwhile as anyone else, and just as deserving of being healthy and happy. I suggest finding some way to take care of yourself that you're not doing; it may be simply getting out and walking; it could be finding time to read or do something else you like; it could be finding a sitter if you have a child so that you can have an afternoon to do what you like (maybe swap out with a friend?). Be good to yourself - you DO deserve it.

Answer 3

There is nothing wrong with you .
no you do not need counseling and definitely stay away from drugs.
I know exactly, no better,I empathize, I feel your situation, because it is what I experience. and there is nothing you or I can do about it. Some people go through life where everything they touch works out well.There are people no matter what they do, it all ends up in the garbage. All you can do is choose not to let it bother you. continue being the wonderful person you are. and live you life. good luck

Answer 4

Sheesh.... Sounds like me sometimes. The way I've gotten through this is to try to learn lessons from situations and try different approaches. I try to roll with things and not to think about it too much. I've found that having other things to do to keep my focus away from areas that drive me crazy also helps. Its all part of growing and maturing. I've had a lot of "character building" in my life. But we DO grow from these bad experiences that seem at times to go on forever.... Really! No Bull.

Answer 5

I'm not a doctor and I won't tell you to get counseling; me, personally, I'd talk to my family doctor. Why don't you try volunteering at a homeless shelter or a senior center or even at a pediatric ward in your local hospital. You'll get the satisfaction and good feeling that your family or friends aren't giving you and you'll be helping someone less fortunate than you are.

Answer 6

That's life darling, just when you think its going good, you get slapped back down. Sorry honey, but this doesn't end. Take the good when it comes and make good out of the bad. No, medication is not going to change the way life is. It happens to all of us, not just you. Been around for many years..... Take the good when it comes!

Answer 7

If you do things for others and don't expect anything in return you won't be disappointed. When things go badly for you, it's all in how you react to it that counts. Learn to laugh it off. Think of the troops that are without legs or arms, little children with serious diseases, people without health care, without homes, without food. Then thank God for what you have.

Answer 8

yeah, i feel ya. i cant make anything better either. my family just tries to make me live like THEY want me to live, they wont listen to my problems....and my honesty, loyalty, and compassion has been used so many times i cant even count it. i try to have a good day for once then something happens to make it go all wrong. counseling and meds dont help that much, do they? i cut, i attempt suicide..these are my ways of dealing with life's bullsh*t....hey, if you ever wanna talk, message me.

Answer 9

Since you said don't tell you that you need counseling b/c it doesn't work for you then I won't. But I will say that if you say counseling doesn't then I will have assumed you've already tried it. If you've already tried it and feel it doesn't work, I would hazard a guess that maybe it was the actual counselor that didn't work for you and not the counseling itself. Maybe if you found a counselor who's personality fits yours ...

Answer 10

well, that's life i went through the same thing, but i just tried ignoring everything. 'course it's not the best thing to do but it kinda helps. counseling does not help, believe me but having someone to talk to does.