I wasnt always a nice christian Girl?

Question

I am a relativly new christian, and therefore my behaviors have change alot when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex. I sometimes get very uncomfortable when men approche me showing interest in me because I have only delt with one christian relationship and that man turned out to be what I believe is the new kind of player who knows many women in the church are seeking christian husbands and uses that to play her. I was very young in christ then. Anyway. I would really like some advice about Christian dating, since biblical characters didnt date. I used to operate in a way that is not acceptable now and am not sure how I should handle men who are interested in dating. I have been celebate for about 4 years and know that sex is not part of what I am willing to do. That is a non-issue, but what about the rest? How does one learn to be a nice christian girl? :O)Thank you.

Answer 1

Well, it depends on the age group that you are in/the guys are in. Do you know these guys? If not, it would be better to leave than to use a simple "leave me alone".
Dating should be based around good morals (eg, no infedelity, no premarital sex, etc). Your partner should also have a strong relationship with God, and attend church regularly, the beliefs you have. You should also share some interests, but not all. That would get kinda boring after a while.
If you are uncomfortable dating guys you don't know (I'm not quite sure what you are saying there, "[I] am not sure how I should handle men who are interested in dating."), try to minimize time you spend in bars, clubs etc. In college, or fresh out? Find another Christian girl that you can talk to, someone you will be able to trust (Actually, you can do this at any age). Tell them that you are recently born again, and would like to know "how" to be a nice Christian girl. Well, basically, love thy neighbor (everyone around you) as you would yourself, give yourself entirely to God each and every day, pray to Him when you are having problems, etc. Live like Jesus would, set an example for others around you.
More questions? email me, [e-mail]. (If you feel uncomfortable about that, it's ok. Talk to a pastor, or an older woman at your church, or any other Christian).
P.S. Sure, I may be a guy, but living a Christian life, living like Christ is the same for men and women.
P.S.S. I was saved 2 years ago, and didn't know how to live like Him, until I talked to some other Christians.

Answer 2

Pray, first of all that God will send the right man into your life. Pray,
when you are unsure of a mans intentions, God freely gives wisdom to those who ask. For me reading the Bible is the only way I can find my way sometimes! His inspired word is so awesome and though you think God doesn't address dating, he
will speak directly to your situation through his word. As a Christian woman, the holy spirit lives in you, and will guide you to all truth! You don't need to learn to be a nice christian girl, you already are! Just rely on Christ, he will never lead you the wrong way.

Answer 3

The Bible says that Christians might desire to basically marry different Christians. i'm stunned that sometime interior of a three year relationship your Pastor or your Christian friends does not have already pointed this out to you. See 2 Cor 6:14ff i might propose you examine all of two Cor 6 and a million Cor 7.

Answer 4

Hey girl, relax. Just date guys that are interested in a good Christian girl. When you discuss sex, then just put it in the open that you've chosen to remain celebate until marriage. If he asks if you're a virgin just say no.

Just because one guy is a jerk, doesn't mean you have a dating crisis. You probably should reexamine what you mean by dating. If it means going out with the same guy and no one else then you are really going to limit your exposure to that possibly right guy. Just date and don't prolong the dating when you find the guy isn't right for you.

It's no big deal, just relax.

Answer 5

First of all, I ask that God put a hedge of thorns around you, that no weapon formed against you shall prosper. I ask that He protect you from harm and that He guard you with His angels, that He show you the way He would have you go. I have the utmost respect for your desire to be pure and Godly. The way to proceed is to do what Jesus said; seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all things will be added to you. Let God bring a good Christian man into your life, take things super slow....and don't "fool" yourself any step of the way, and you know what I mean. Be honest with yourself about what you feel and what the young man is "after". If you take things slowly, be careful and do not let him take "advantage" of you physically, God will see to the rest.

Answer 6

I know what you are talking about the players in church.I think T.D.Jakes has some great books on the subject also Joyce Myers.Hold your ground with Jesus and you will be so blessed.I wish I could give your more,just keep drawing close and find some good books on the subject.Remember what Jesus told us,He is the lover of our souls.You cant beat that.Blessings and love to you.

Answer 7

Find a mature in Christ lady in your church and ask her to be your mentor (spiritual mother).

The bible commands the "older" ladies to teach the younger ones.

My spiritual mother "adopted" me at 17 and I have been blessed with her quiet knowledge and spirit and powerful prayer warrier ways for many more years than I care to count now.

I wish you were close by, we have Christian young men and very few young ladies in our area. Our young men are experiencing the very same things that you are, trying to find a Christian mate that they are also attracted to is much harder in reality than on paper.

I wish you comfort and knowledge and wisdom from God (and for him to send your way a man looking for his missing rib.

Answer 8

ask your prest? I'm new at this to. you'll probably give him a heart attack but ask. and by the way congrats on the 4 years without sex. It's hard, I've gone without 2 years.

Answer 9

I don't have an answer for you,but I believe you.Keep high standards.Do what you believe is right, according to your current understanding.Go easy on your former self.She didn't know.

Answer 10

YOU HAVE TO KILL EVERYONE YOU LOVE TO BE JESUSDISCIPLE!! OR ELSE YOU CANT GO TO HEAVEN;THEBIBLE IS STUPID-

Luke 14:26 If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple.
14:27 And whosoever doth not bear his cross, and come after me, cannot be my disciple.
14:28 For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it?
14:29 Lest haply, after he hath laid the foundation, and is not able to finish it, all that behold it begin to mock him,
14:30 Saying, This man began to build, and was not able to finish.
14:31 Or what king, going to make war against another king, sitteth not down first, and consulteth whether he be able with ten thousand to meet him that cometh against him with twenty thousand?
14:32 Or else, while the other is yet a great way off, he sendeth an ambassage, and desiret