Why do we as moms feel the need to bash each other? I mean, someone says they don't want to breastfeed, for whatever reason, and OMG! I mean honestly, shouldn't we be supportive of each other? I know "breast is best", whatever. The the fact of the matter is, it's not for everyone, and someone who chooses not to is not putting their baby in harm's way. Someone asks what kind of formula, or bottle. then that's what they want to know, if you're going to say "breast", then do it if you feel the NEED to, but don't bash! So, why can't we just respect each others views. I mean if you answer a question to help someone, that's what you should try to do. If you're not trying to help, then DON'T ANSWER! Someone says they spank their kids (not beat, or abuse, just spank) and you get all these people bashing them. Why can't we just be supportive of each other. Realize that parenting is hard work, and that most parents (not all) are trying their hardest to do the best they can?
2006-11-19 10:15:51 · 8 answers · asked by Amanda D 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I know we all have our own beliefs, but can't we just repect each other's beliefs? And if we can, offer the help that is asked for?
2006-11-19 10:22:48 · update #1
Thanks for adding the working vs. stay home debate. That's one that really drives me crazy and I forgot to mention. I'll check out the 1,2,3 magic, who knows? Might really be the magic I need!
2006-11-19 10:38:07 · update #2
I completely agree with you. Each of us knows what is best for our children and our families. Who cares how your baby is fed, as long as she is getting enough to eat. Who cares if you stay at home with your baby of if you go to work and leave your kid with a babysitter. As long as the baby is cared for, that is all that matters. Anyone can take care of a baby. Children need you at home more when they get to junior high and high school anyway.
Anyway, I think that the bashing often comes from insecurity. Many moms, especially new ones are very hung up on doing everything exactly right. Once they have found what is right for them and their families, they misguidedly think that theirs is the only way. They fight and argue with others because they are afraid that if there is another right way, maybe they aren't doing things right after all. A perfect example of this is the war between stay at home moms and working moms. Each is jealous of the other. Stay at home moms wish they could get some alone time and working moms wish they could spend more time with their children. So instead of acknowledging that they are doing the best they can and what's right for their families, they fight with each other and tell each other how wrong they are for their decisions.
In the end, I don't think there are any good reasons why moms fight over the decisions they make for their kids. But I do think that we should all put our differences aside and do what's best for everyone, especially our children, and just get along despite our diagreements.
2006-11-19 10:29:48 · answer #1 · answered by Garden Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right On, You Go Girl!!! They're are lots of women who would love to breast-feed but can't for one reason or another~I know, I was one of them 18 & 20 yrs ago. And thank you for the comment about spanking, people used that form of punishment for hundreds of years. Then someone says it's abuse, and look at our country now! Spanking is NOT abuse, beating IS!!
Yes parenting is very hard work and most of us are trying our hardest & doing the best we can!! And we should all do our best to support & encourage other parents.
I have found that it is just some people's nature/personality defect to cut others down! But I sure don't know why!!
2006-11-19 18:37:46 · answer #2 · answered by Donna J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you're a wonderful mother. I can tell you that I am looking forward to having my babies soon, but I am not looking forward to the guilt that seems to come along with it. You just do what you think is best for you and your baby, and that's all you can do.
You don't have to answer to other parents. Don't give them that power over you. Maybe change the subject next time something that's potentially controversial comes up. There are so many ways to evade questions....blank looks, jokes, the baby needs changing. You are in charge.
2006-11-19 18:38:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you!! Whats right for some is not right for others! The condemnation I got for inquiring about the 123 magic course was mostly answered by people who knew nothing about it. Thanks for your interest- the websight is www.parentmagic.com it is a whole package of positive parenting with the counting 1,2,3 giving children a chance to make good choices about their behaviour. Hope you find it interesting the video is great, makes you think. And hey if its not for you I won't bash you!!!!!!
2006-11-19 18:33:37 · answer #4 · answered by mums_gone_mad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fully agree with you, my daughter decided to breast feed with her 2nd baby and the nursing staff in the hospital were all over her but when it didn,t work out for her and she decided to change to bottle feed she was made to feel like an outcast, i say a mother knows what is best for her children no matter what age and every one else keep their nose out.
2006-11-19 18:51:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bashing others behind the safety of the computer makes some people feel superior. Unfortunately, it is human nature.
2006-11-19 18:26:53 · answer #6 · answered by aggie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we all wanted to be the best parent in the world. Now, I would just settle for getting them to 18 without ending up in prison.
2006-11-19 18:20:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
because everyone is different and have their own believes.
2006-11-19 18:18:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋