I am dating this guy...but I'm not allowed to...when I first went out with him...my parents made me break up with them...then we went out again...I broke up with him a second time on my own...anyway...I'm going out with him AGAIN...and he says that he loves me...loves...and I say it back because I don't want to hurt his feelings...he posted in one of his blogs that each time I break up with him...it hurts even more...I want to break up with him again...because he puts wayyy too much pressure on me...I just want to be myself around him...but I can't...sometimes I feel like I love him...but I know that I actually don't ...I don't want to hurt him again...but I don't want go out with him anymore...what do I do???
2006-11-19 10:13:29 · 17 answers · asked by Allie S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, obviously he's not worth it if you've broken up with him 3 times. Love is bitter sweet meaning someone is always going to get hurt no matter what you do. So the next time he utters the words- I love you. Ask him if he really does... Tell him that you don't think that it's going to work out because your parents don't like him and your not sure that you are right for him and that he could find someone thats better for himself, because you don't think your that someone. If you can't be yourself around him don't be with him at all. If he takes the break up badly he never really did love YOU because the people who really love you want whats best for you and want you to be happy. Like your parents, they really really love you and they don't think that he's right for you. Trust your parents judgement, they've lived in this life longer than you have. This is coming from a teenagers perspective too, parents are your special guide book on how to succeed. He probably just needs someone he can be close to so he says i love you just so you'll stay by his side. Offer to be his friend if the break up goes well if not don't even try to be his friend, all he wants is some girl and your worth more than that.
2006-11-19 10:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to hurt him again. Just think that if things were the other way around, a guy wouldn't stop to think about your feeling, it would just do it. Break up with him. Tell him that you're sorry. Love hurts and that's something everybody needs to understand. You don't get who you want sometimes. So just leave him and stop playing around. If you leave him, leave him, don't go back with him AGAIN, cause that's what it's hurting him.
2006-11-19 10:18:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make up your mind either you do or you dont. Dont string him along if you dont and if you decide you do love him stop changing your mind. Dont feel bad though, that is a very common trait among women one minute they love you then think the grass may be greener on the other side/find out its not and come running back.
2006-11-19 10:19:19 · answer #3 · answered by thomas69235 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely the reason he put it in his blog is to manipulate your feelings. The longer you wait the harder it will be. Be true to your feelings and let your parents in on what's been happening. They will trust you more and SHOULD see their daughter as honest and learning from life. If that happens you should get more freedom. Good luck.
2006-11-19 10:29:33 · answer #4 · answered by Ken Baldwin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Defiance of authority may seem fun and risky in the movies, but in reality is a negative character trait. Do what your parents say. They know better and are looking out for your best interests.
2006-11-19 10:16:11 · answer #5 · answered by Reo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you do what you want, that will be what you want, but there are ways of not knowing anything when you have rules that are changing how you feel, my girl is as bi-polar as it gets and she never know what she is until she isn't and then she talks real other wise it just sounds so off the wall of parental controls
2006-11-19 10:28:03 · answer #6 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you feel and don't let him down to hard.If you don't ex pres your feelings then you may hurt him.Why don't you just be friends with him rather then to keep braking up with him.Stop playing those games.If you had a girl friend and you didn't want to talk to her will you tell her strait up that you don't want to talk to her?Cuss that's what your doing to him.
2006-11-19 10:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to walk away from him I promise he will get over it. I know it makes you feel bad because you don't want to hurt him but why should you be unhappy.
2006-11-19 10:18:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to take it slow. That you need time to breath. My friends parents are like that. Dont tell them. Pretend to be going somewhree else and then visit him. tell this boy that ur parents dont want you to have a bf, so he has to respect that.
2006-11-19 10:17:32 · answer #9 · answered by Celetatious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got a Problem,
on and off is to stressful,tell hem its over and move on,don't go back again,make it easy on yourself.
2006-11-19 11:33:56 · answer #10 · answered by karl s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋