she is my neighbor so lives across the street. I am still deeply in love with her and she wants to be friends but i decided we couldnt be. So anyway, I am obsessed with her and I always want to know what she is doing and who she is with and I watch her window til she turns out the light so I know when she is sleeping. Its been 3 monthes since we broke up, is it wrong what I am doing? I just want to get over her and stop being so obsessed (or get back with her but i know that cant happen).
2006-11-19 10:09:37 · 20 answers · asked by im bringing sexy back 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Man .. shake yourself loose!! Put some distance between the two of you before you do something STUPID! Go to the movies, ask someone else out, go bowling, get a job, stay busy - get a life. 3 MONTHS!!!! You need to get over this before something happens.
2006-11-19 10:13:54 · answer #1 · answered by Topez 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard question... but whatever you think should happen between you, don't do it. If she said no, then leave it at that. I know it's hard to leave someone alone that you love, but if you don't, things can get really ugly and fast. I admit I'm still curious about my ex and miss him, but get yourself out of her life as much as you can because it will only make you feel worse. No phone calls, no IMs, and if you're in any of the same classes together, don't sit near her. If she gets offended cause it seems like you're avoiding her, explain your situation that you still love her but you're respecting her space.
If it's an issue on how you want to know why she doesn't like you back, then ask her, but only once. And if it's an answer you don't like, don't get offended or press for a better answer. It'll just make you seem creepy and whatnot. And if it's just a little quirk that you have that bothers her, that's ok to change, but if it's anything major, don't bother and find someone else. You shouldn't have to change to be with someone if they're not willing to be with YOU and instead want a different you.
As for what to do in the meantime, occupy yourself with a hobby. Go out with the guys, meet a new girl, get a haircut, go shopping, do SOMETHING other than occupy your time watching through her window. A) that's creepy, and B) It's not helping you any. I know it's easier said than done, but get over it. That will be the best for both of you.
I wish you luck.
2006-11-19 10:33:32 · answer #2 · answered by Amba 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe if you tell her how u feel she might still feel the same way ( you never no)! i think the stalking part is a little crazy but you need to try and get ur mind off of her somehow maybe go hang with friend get a hobby or something that on your spare time you dont just sit at your window and watch her. Its not really wrong what you are doing but most people would say "yes its wrong stop" and they are kinda right and they are kinda wrong because u are still in love with her!! but try some things that i said and that might help!
2006-11-19 10:15:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same boat. I had my Heart ripped from my chest. I still think of her but I have moved on. Why would you want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you or doesn't care about you. I am 30 and still single but dating is alot of fun and I have been meeting alot of great people. I know it hurts, It was the most painful thing that I have ever endured but I am a better and stronger person for it! Get a hair cut, buy some new clothes and put yourself out there because finding someone else is the best wat to move on. When your dog dies, you get another to make you feel better, same with girlfriends!!! Good luck bro!
2006-11-19 10:20:56 · answer #4 · answered by Andrew P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In all seriousness, you need to stop what you are doing immediately. Strong feelings about someone you love don't go away easily, but you need to find a better outlet. Get yourself out of your residence more often and get out to the gym, ballgame, church, volunteer work, or other way of keeping yourself busy.
Doesn't matter how or why the relationship ended, or what feelings may remain. What you are doing is wrong, unhealthy, and possibly illegal.
2006-11-19 10:15:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
A lot of people will call that creepy but i see where you are coming from. It has to be tough that she is right across the street. Try to find a new girl and you will forget about her soon enough.
2006-11-19 10:15:07 · answer #6 · answered by T B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please check out www.coda.org, the site for codependents anonymous, and try getting to a meeting. Sometimes we feel driven to "stalk" people, drive by where we think they are, find out what they are doing, becuase we are addicted to them. I have experienced this in my own life, to a degree, and have started going to CoDA meetings, and I feel so much better about myself. You might like to go to their website and read a bit and see if you identify with some of what you see. Good luck.
2006-11-19 10:15:39 · answer #7 · answered by bluenile08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea that is definitely not ok because you will not be able to get over her if you are constantly thinking about her and constantly watching her and just find someone else. dont talk to her and completely break away or it could get worse. but trust me stalking is never a good idea.
2006-11-19 10:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by Brandi P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a serious problem , and may I suggest counselling, this will only get worse, if you do not get help, and you are half way there as you already admit there is a problem, You deserve a better life, go and get it
2006-11-19 10:15:40 · answer #9 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude , leave the girl alone.
I guest she know you are stalking her.
sometimes after break up , you cant be friend
why i sayed , you have feel for her , but it can be she is not interesting you , maybe am wrong.
go out find new girl , get to know then , leave your ex gf alone.
or go to her house and talk. maybe she will talk to you.
2006-11-19 10:13:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋