Does the character of a man actually matter to a woman?

Question

I'm looking for serious answers here. Nothing along the lines of "duh" or "of course".

I'm just wondering, because I haven't been able to find a woman who thinks that it's important for a man to live his life with integrity. Most women that I know think that it's great when a man is unfaithful, lazy, verbally abusive, and dishonest in general. They view him as being a "bad boy" who has "edge" and is a "challenge".

On the other hand, a man who is confident, mentally and physically healthy, a community leader, intelligent, romantic, honest, and devoted to his wife and children, is seen as "boring" and "too nice".

Why is this? Do these women have low self-esteem and think that they don't deserve better . . . or, do men of integrity have to start being losers in order for women to appreciate them?

I look forward to your serious and well-thought-out answers.

Answer 1

Let my answer your question with great sincerity and thoughtfulness. If I were to meet a good man who is confident, intelligent, romantic, honest, faithful, mentally, emotionally and physically healthy, I WOULD SHOUT THANK YOU TO G-D FROM THE ROOFTOPS! Does that answer your question? Need I say more?

Answer 2

"Most women that I know think that it's great when a man is unfaithful, lazy, verbally abusive, and dishonest in general. They view him as being a "bad boy" who has "edge" and is a 'challenge'."

Haha. I don't know what women you're hanging out with, but I don't know anyone who would want to date a guy like that.

"On the other hand, a man who is confident, mentally and physically healthy, a community leader, intelligent, romantic, honest, and devoted to his wife and children, is seen as 'boring' and 'too nice'."

It would be great to meet a guy like that. I don't think they exist though. Heh. :P

And as far as these loser males you speak of, I think some women find attraction to them because some females think they can change the guy, and mold him into what they think he should be. Which is completely retarded.

Answer 3

It should but most of the time it doesn't (not always) in most cases if he's nice looking, with a nice job, and a great body other things are OVERLOOKED!!!! The entire bad boy image is overrated, and if you're not a bad boy, most women mistake your kindness for a weakness. Don't give up, because there are exceptions to every rule.

Answer 4

Most of these women you speak of are immature and watch too many movies. The movies makes the "Bad Boy" style of living look so glamorous. After these gals get their hearts broken a few times will soon change their minds. Then they will be looking for "Mr. Boring Nice Guy".

Answer 5

I think the character of a man is the absolute most important thing in finding someone. Sure women like 'bad boys' but when they are ready to settle down they are going to want someone with integrity, not someone to cause them grief.

Answer 6

Everyone good girl wants to see what it like to have thug in there life and once they experience that type of bad boy mentality then they become accustomed to it. Most women just want to see what its like, but in the end u can't take a bad boy home to meet mommy and daddy. Don't search for the right girl let them come to u.

Answer 7

well asked. this is a very important problem women deal with nowadays. its not that they dont respect the "good guy", its wat u said: they want a challenge. women always like good challenges, so u can still be the great guy u are, with a little more edge. have more self confidence, play a little hard to get, and remember:Be yourself. if u have all these qualities plus good looks, then u have nothing to wry about. hope that answered ur question.

Answer 8

when a woman is first attracted to a man they see the outward view of him - his sense of humor or his good looks. as we get to know men better, we see their real character and that is why some relationships only last for a few months... most women [in my opinion] deep down want a man who will look after them and more importantly someone who is honest. therfore the character does matter to a woman... it can take a while for a mans character to shine through as they as so concerned about trying to impress!

Answer 9

I don't know what kind of women you're meeting, but you are like all the husbands in my circle of friends. We don't call them "boring" we consider them good men. Most people form relationships based on "feelings" and say "you can't help who you fall in love with" but this is nonsense. They haven't been taught to be discerning, they value excitement over character due to movies/soap operas, and some think being "judgmental" isn't nice.

Answer 10

My man is sweet, honest, hard working, good looking, very intelligent and most of all, he makes me laugh.

If all you are coming across are the women who like the bad boys, then maybe you're looking in the wrong places.