My boyfriend says he's "obsessed" with me and that I'm all he cares about, and his whole life revolves around only me and stuff....and yes it is sweet and you rarely find a guy that is that into you....but sometimes I think he's a little too obsessed, not to mention controlling. I have to admit, I'm not obsessed with him and my world does not revolve solely around him...am I wrong? Or what?
2006-11-19 09:20:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It appears that YOU are the healthy one in this relationship. Obsession is a red flag that is a sign of abuse. Putting you in the center of his universe, he is trying to make you feel guilty for not putting him in the middle of everything and will play the, "but if you REALLY loved me..." card to control you.
I have been in such relationships (on both sides) and they all turned scary and abusive. I strongly recommend you pull away from him and give him some room to grow up. You may still love him, but you need to love yourself first and it doesn't sound as if he is going to give you room to do that.
2006-11-19 09:26:56 · answer #1 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You value your freedom, and that's a good thing. Take his confession of obsession at face value. People who are obsessed can go to ridiculous lengths to force their partner to "behave properly". This can include rules about what the partner can wear, who she can see or not, whether or not she can work or go to school, religious instruction, abuse and ad nauseum. I strongly recommend that you read some true stories of women who have fled to shelters (the cable t.v. channel Lifeline has all kinds of stories about this).
2006-11-19 09:26:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope, looks like you've got your head screwed on honey. anyway, becoming obsessed over a guy isn't worth it, cos they might just dump you when you least expect it.
2006-11-19 09:22:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurl no u aint wrong u dont have to be obbssed with anybody!!!!! and what im thinking that he is prolly using you!! or lieing to u cause one of my ex-b/f's said that same thing and lied,cheated,and used me!!!!! but besides that if he is controlling dont let him control u its your life not his! but if u really like him that on you!
2006-11-19 09:24:15 · answer #4 · answered by Shelley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong. Probably the most "right" question I've read today
2006-11-19 09:22:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong. Encourage him to give you some space though.
2006-11-19 09:24:27 · answer #6 · answered by roast_breadfruit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds pretty needy to me. But that might come from his lack of self-confidence and worth.
2006-11-19 09:23:12 · answer #7 · answered by ftz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please seek immediate help
2006-11-19 09:22:42 · answer #8 · answered by ToolBox™ is back 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋