I've gotton too close to my female friend.I told her how I felt and we decided it wud be best to remain friends.We are so close that she didn't want to risk the friendship,our special bond.We are now on good terms as before my confession.
Said she can’t imagine me not being in\part of her life-meaning???
Stuff we do is:
Go to dinner\lunch together,drinks in the evening. We go on roadtrips together to the coast\countryside for walks, usually followed by dinner and its just the 2 of us.this happens regularly.We also flirt with each other and we’re in touch practically everyday etc
How do I make sure that we(I) don't get too close to her again???
I don't want to start acting odd or hurt her by a sudden change in behaviour.
Anyone be in a similar position??
Advice....
2006-11-19 09:13:36 · 19 answers · asked by sircrazydude90 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yup, i'm in the same position except i'm the girl and my guy friend is just like you.
so...it's not reciprocated? well, i suggest you get out and meet other girls. that's what i want my guy friend to do but he seems to be into me much more. and i know it's not good for him-i love him as a friend, only.
it sounds harsh, but you might have to spend some tim,e away from her...get out into the dating scene. clubs bars etc if you're into that kind of thing. if she has any heart she will encourage you to do the same.
2006-11-19 09:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until she dumps you, you will feel better for it in the morning. i know u are on good terms now, but she tried to imagine life without u. (she can't imagine life without u in it) just dawned on me what that meant. why would she do that? she has already dunped you in her mind,or she thinks ur gonna dump her, but then when u confessed all, she no longer has that right to utter such words, so therefore original thought stands she is gonna dump u. u didn't get that far it was the kiss she wanted. women have evolved we know want to know whats it like with this guy and sometimes thats just it. we don't go gogoogaga anymore at the prospect of some action. u don't have to worry about getting close to her again, cause she's on the run, just don't try an stop her, even though your in love, she lied to u dude, in ur face, and made u believe it. and us too. now i know it wasn't attraction it was curiosity. your only close cause she's running. just leave it as it is and when the shoe drops leave it too. sorry to bust your bubble dude, she is gonna leave u soon. do as some other girls says and just leave, and get urself a girl/friend that will go over the rainbow. there really are more fish in the sea. some of my answer got erased. sorry hope it all makes sense. 2 u.
2006-11-19 11:45:11 · answer #2 · answered by windbag 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about if you ask some other people to join you? As long as you have talked and decided that it would be best if you just remained friends why not start seeing someone else? That would help to ease the pressure on you and you wouldn't have to worry about getting too close and hurting her.
You'd still be a part of her life...as a friend.
2006-11-19 09:20:57 · answer #3 · answered by Arleen J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming that you are a MAN, I would say by reading what you wrote you really like her as MORE than just a friend. Because a Man has this thing called "HORMONES" being JUST FRIENDS with a female is quite A CHALLENGE. For women it's quite different. Because they are quite different in BIOLOGICAL and SOCIAL (GENDER attributes) ways, most are able to handle it better than MEN. AND the part where you wrote : Said she can’t imagine me not being in\part of her life-meaning???....well that try to analyze it too much. Take it for what it is. Most women only mean that as a FRIEND, and because you may be "in like with her" your intrpetations will lean towards her being the same way.
2006-11-19 09:23:55 · answer #4 · answered by chaseki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, you have fallen into the "brother" catagory. Once she looks at you that way, there is only a deep friendship. Odds are almost 100% you will never have a "coulpe type" relationship. Hopes this helps......however that is just something we, the females, do. I have never seen a "brother" win. Watch the movie "My Best Friends Wedding" with Julia Roberts, then you will understand.
2006-11-19 09:19:50 · answer #5 · answered by jjust wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard to go back to the way things were in my opinion because there is still some feeling there. I think that you might need a break from her just to sort out your feelings and then maybe hang out with her and be bestfriends again later. It'll just hurt you more in the long run if you don't deal with these feelings first and continue hanging out like ya'll do now.
i'm sorry if i didn't help
2006-11-19 09:17:41 · answer #6 · answered by malou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really understand why she doesn't want to have a real relationship with you. Sounds kinda fishy, usually when someone uses the friendship excuse its because they're not really that into you. The times I have said that to a guy it was because I didn't really want to date him but I liked having someone cool to hang out with. When you are good friends with someone it is hard to end a relationship with that person. By keeping him strictly a "friend"- if somebody I really liked came along I wouldn't be stuck with him.
2006-11-19 09:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by maggielynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like u really like her. And by the sound of things she likes to be with you. But maybe she has so much fun with you shes scared to lose that. If you go out maybe she feels things will change. Or maybe she loves your company but she not sexually attracted to you. I think you should try to get a girlfriend or at least look and see what she thinks.
2006-11-19 09:21:46 · answer #8 · answered by luvy7e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in this situation now. if i wasn't i would say you need to b honest with her and tell her how much you care, let her know that you are not like this with anyone else and that you want it to be like this all the time. if she rejects you then you need to move on, meaning that you should review the amount of time you spend with her and start seeing other people
however as i am in this situation i know that if you gave me this advice i would say 'yeah that's fine, but i don't want to lost her' so it comes down to how strong and secure in your life you are. if she doesn't want to take your relationship further [and well done as you have aked her already - i'm still to shy and scared to do that!] then you need to respect that. but maybe if she sees you with someone else she will realise how much she cares and change her mind. i know that you would be using someone else, but as long as you don't get to heavily involved no one should get hurt
good luck - and whatever you do - keep your dignity
2006-11-19 09:27:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
babe iv been in this exact position before but the other way round this boy and me were exactly the same and we still are he told me he loved me and told me he wanted to go out with me but we just decided to stay mates for the risk or r relationships we are always flirting with each other all the time but we feel comfortable round each other if he fell in love with me again i would just let it pass so don't worry Hun girls let things pass really easy if u fall in love with her again she we let it by an your be the same just don't act weird with her maybe one day your end up with each other or maybe your find another girlfriend and she will find a boyfriend but by the sounds of it your ALWAYS be mates good luck babe xx
2006-11-19 09:21:40 · answer #10 · answered by ..x..blue.eyed.princess..x.. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋