She freaks out when we put clothes on her and says they are too tight, she frreaks out when we put her in her car seat and says that is too tight. She will not eat hardly anything, she freaks out and DEMANDS that I (her father) lay with her at nap time until she falls asleep. She is VERY BOSSY! VERY WHINNY! She makes her mother cry from frustration nearly daily. She does not respond to spanking AT ALL. Nor has any other form of disipline seemed to help with these frustrating moments. She can be very hateful telling us to leave and that she does not love us or need us and then when we leave she crys that we left her. She says that she will be a good girl all the time but never changes how she acts. It is as if she feels no pain even with a hard spanking. She will continue the whinning and the demanding, bossing attitude that got her spanked to begin with. We have become very reactional, and we do not like it. She has a 1 yr. old sister who is a joy, but we fear she will pick up on this.
2006-11-19 09:12:53 · 10 answers · asked by cody d 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
She's being a typical 3 yr. old, but that's no excuse to let her get away with it.
Don't give in to her demands. She's 3 yrs. old and not the boss of the house. If she demands something, tell her no. Also mention to her that if she wants something, she's going to have to ask nicely instead of in a demanding tone.
2006-11-19 09:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
She is obviously jealous of the NEW baby and needs to be reassured that she has not became FORGOTTEN
Don't you realize that spanking (reacting)to her behavior just accelerates this behavior? What is cause and affect?
When my son went to school the biggest bullies were those same kids that got smacked around at home.
She is used to getting ALL the attention and last year that all changed when she got a sibling.
Give her reassurance. when the little one cries and you are resolving that issue ask her for advise (not that you would take it of course) She needs to blend in the family not be an alien (just because she says so)
New one is her friend. Does new baby take too much attention from her that she feels left out?
try this trick
When you do something for new baby
give her something she thinks is special and which she enjoys to get her to associate her with the sibling.
sounds like jealousy to me
2006-11-19 10:23:42 · answer #2 · answered by Big V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to ask anyone out there a ? As this person stated above I to also Have same problem with my 2 year old, I want all to think back, my daughter was very mellow till she had her series of shots at 18 months that same night I saw a change in her she became very restless at bed time and over the next few weeks it had become worse. I notice with my oldest daughter at 4 when she had her last series of shots she change and was a bit hyper but this time around it is much worse and started at her 18 months shots. I would like to know if any parent has experience a change after their child got there routine shots, I am not sure what they are but I know she had 4 at one time and I ? at the time that I felt to much for a baby to obtain especially after the first one and the changes,, I will not allow them to give her more then one shot a visit from this point on because of such a major change. I want to know if there is anyone out there that notice major changes after shots,, I feel these shot given all at once like they are are to much for baby's system and I feel that they are related to ADD or ADHD. I think us parents need to reunite and protect our children if so,, Look at the high increase of people that have ADD since they changed these shots,, and comments will be appreciated.
2006-11-21 15:35:51 · answer #3 · answered by lonelyneden 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 2 1/2 yr. old has tried demanding things from me on occassion but he sees it doesn't go thru w/ me. I say "ask nicely" or say "please"...if he wants to continue being demanding, I will pick him up and sit him on the couch and say "Now you sit here until you act nice or whatever the case may be"
Once you scold them, don't feel bad and start hugging them. that defeats the purpose.
Usually with uncontrolled children, parents don't follow through somewhere or are passive and dont deal with the issue in the beginning and then voila, they have a nightmare...etc...
It may take more work for you now, but your daughter needs to know you will not tolerate that type of behavior. And that there will be consequences like she can't watch her fav DVD or she has to go to sleep early or stay in her room. Take away something she will have a hard time parting from. Then you stick to your guns. She will know then who's boss. Your rules have to be enforced daily.
A book that has helped me feel peace is "Power of a Praying Parent" by stormie omartian. Prayer is powerful!
I pray the best for your family.
God Bless!
2006-11-19 09:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, 3 year olds can be that way, continue with spanking or other punishments. My parents made me sit on a chair for 10 minutes, isolated from everything else. That's all the advice I have, thank you.
2006-11-19 09:15:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
wow! sounds like you have your hands full with this one.well you know that spanking does not work so why do it. when she is demanding, do you give her what she wants? if so, you need to stop that right now. when she is acting out take her to her room tell her that when she can behave then she can come back out. don't allow her to be in there playing with her toys or watching TV.if she does have a TV in her room, you need to take it away from her. any time she acts out like this, on top of sending her to her room take some thing away from her. don't give it back to her until she can behave for a long period of time. not just a day or two.then only give her one thing at a time back.if she comes out of her room when she is being punished make her go back, unless she remained quit for at least 15 min. you have to be strong and you and the wife need to sit down and make a routine for her to follow. once you have this in place you have to stick with it. as far as her complaining about her clothes. give her choices as to what she wants to wear. once she has made the choice, then make her stick with what she picked out. i can go on and on here. but here is a starting point.
2006-11-19 11:32:08 · answer #6 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry i have a four year old for a brother i think it is just a stage of the beggining of childhood they dont really mean they dont love you when they say that but if the behaivor continues up to about age six you might have a problem
2006-11-19 09:15:58 · answer #7 · answered by erin g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, that is NOT it.... since i was pg with gianna we made it a point to involve makynna. she loved on my belly.... people brought makynna a small gift at the baby shower to include her. she even got gifts the day of gianna's birth. she LOVES her sister and shows it daily. she even got gifts last weekend at gianna's bday party. there is NO lack of attention, if anything, gianna got the raw deal. thank you for your comment :) thank you all 4 your comments! :)
2006-11-19 11:02:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a pretty normal 3 1/2 year old to me.
2006-11-19 09:14:44 · answer #9 · answered by kimberly k 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Doesnt sound normal at all to me. I recommend you to take her to a therapist, it helps a lot and will give you good advices about how to manage the situation. Because if u do love your child, you cant let this keep on because its bad for the family and mostly bad for her personality and her future.
God bless you!
2006-11-19 09:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by Shannella 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋