why is my ex being so cruel when he cheated.?

Question

sat no problems, sunday could not get me out fast enough. I found that he was seeing someone on the side, 25 years younger. From his work. I am fit attractive, and in four years with him, never told hm no in the bedroom. He even told family we were broke up, I just wanot told. the minute i moved out, he wanted no contact. Not the man i know. I called and told him i was going to be in town, i wanted to come by for a few minutes. He said ok, then he hid his car and acted like he was not home He is mean to me, gets mad if i call. Like i have done something to him. I can t get [past my love for hiim. Four months now and i still break down. help

Answer 1

Sounds like he wants nothing to do with you anymore...just leave him alone_

Answer 2

All you have wrote down are reasons enough to forget about him. I know it's tough to forget about a lover who has been with you for 4 years. You will have to either beat him at his own game by become a better person because this kind of abuse is only dragging you down. Even though I don't know you, I believe you can be a better person than he is-- because his actions so far has only proved what kind of man he is-- pathetic. If he wanted to breakup with you, he would've had the guts and the spine to tell you straight out. But right now, he's just playing with you. Leave him, there are a lot of other fish in the sea, you can find a better man than that-- because he's just pathetic.

Either that, but you could talk to him. Insist that you sit down and talk and ask why... not to sound pessimistic, but I don't see anything good happening out of it.

Answer 3

YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN MAKE YOURSELF FEEL THIS WAY. If you choose to be over the situation and move on, then you will. If you choose to sit around and wallow in self pity, then you will. Cry your last tear and say **** it! "saying **** it gives you power" -Risky Business. Decide you are over it and never let it bother you again. You are clearly better off without him and he's clearly a **** stain on your past. Once you have forgotten about him, he'll be back... and then you will have your opportunity to **** on him!! Ahhh, the circle of life.

Answer 4

He's a child in his behavior, and you are wasting your time. Get over it, you made one dumb mistake, let it go. You must accept that and move on. I'm sorry you feel you love him, but what you feel is insecurity. It won't work. Get therapy, get a hobby, do something else.

Answer 5

Guilt.

He's found someone else, but he, still, feels guilty. Probably because you didn't do anything wrong to make him LOOK for someone else.

Move on, hon. There are soooooo many more out there who will appreciate being with you. Don't let this blind you to someone who is looking for YOU.

Answer 6

I know you were together 4 along time but u just have to leave him alone and cry it out.....you have to let him come back to u (if you want hyme to) other wise dont waste time on hyme im sorry this happened

Answer 7

Honey, sounds like the relationship is over.........move on. Has to be a better person out there for you. Good luck

Answer 8

sorry its over. it takes two to tango and he dont wanna dance. you have no choice, you gotta move on.your not allowing yourself to greive and get over it by staying in contact with him. sever all the ties and slowly but surely you will feel better.

Good Luck

Answer 9

Gurl move on he's mad because you are gone he knows you were somebody good thats why he is acting like that

Answer 10

STAY AWAY FROM THIS LOSER. FIND A MAN WHO LOVES YOU AND TREATS YOU WITH DIGNITY AND RESPECT!