my boyfriend doesnt want me to have the baby but my parents do what should i do?

Question

my boyfriend sd tht he isnt ready for a kid and tht if i have it he isnt responsible. i dont want my kid to grow up with out a dad so what should i do?

Answer 1

First of all, whether or not he want to be responsible, he is responsible because he got you pregnant. If he didn't want a kid, he shouldn't have had sex. Second, no matter what anyone says you should have the kid, because if you don't you would be taking a life without giving them a chance to live.

Answer 2

Your boyfriend is betraying him self. He wanted the baby when he made love to you. Otherwise he would have not gone all the way. If he now backs out, it's because he's not the man he made you feel he is. This is why your folks didn't want you getting into this mess to begin with! If he's half a man, he'll step up to the plate and take on his share of this responsibility. You should have the baby regardless. To do otherwise is to murder your first child. He'll be waiting for you at the pearly gates on judgment day. Don't let anyone convince you that "It's your body" so the child becomes less than human. It's your first child!!! Save him while you can. Give him life over all other concerns.

Answer 3

You need to dig deep inside yourself and figure out what is best for you and what your beliefs will allow you to do. Even if you think that having an abortion is best for you future, you have to be sure that it won't conflict with your personal/religious beliefs.
Will you be able to forgive yourself?

On the other hand having a baby and putting it up for adoption is said to be one of the most difficult things a girl/woman can do. That too, could lay on your conscious for years and years.
If you keep the baby do you think you'll be able to provide for it? Financially and emotionally?

These are all things you need to take into consideration before you make your choice. I was in your situation many years ago, and made the choice that I thought was best for me. Although, I do feel guilty at times, I know it was the best thing to do in the long run.

I am now married, have a college degree, a successfull career, and a baby boy. There's no way I could have gotten to where I am today if I hadn't made the decision chose when I was 16.


BTW- If you haven't already ditched this guy, go ahead and get on it. I could understand if he told you he wasn't ready for a child, but you are having a difficult time with this and for him to say all that crap about him not being responsible makes him a peice of trash in my eyes. He belongs in a trash can. And make sure you get the word out as to what kind of person he is. Don't let any other girl make the same mistake of being with this guy

Answer 4

Ultimately it is your body.
Sounds like you are still a minor since you are relying on the desires of others to make your decision. Raising a baby at any age is very challenging. Your parents will love you no matter what, however your boyfriend may not stick around either way.

You have to take sometime and truly think about what you want, think about your future and what is best for you. What are you ready for?

Answer 5

Have the baby. It doesn't matter if he's not ready. The point is, you're already pregnant. You can't go back on that. Abortion is murder after all. If you and your parents feel you can raise a child, then keep it. If you can't, give it up for adoption. But if your boyfriend won't help, forget him. I know it's hard, but you will find a man out there who wouldn't mind helping you raise your child. Don't settle girl! There is a good guy out there for you!

Answer 6

that is sad. but you know there is nothing you can do if your boyfriend doesn't want the baby. but he knows you are pregnant and you can bet he would want you if you weren't pregnant. personally you should get rid of this loser. but your parents seem wiser but the decision is yours to make are you ready for the huge responsibility that comes with raising this child? i know almost everyone doesn't want there child being raised without a dad but really what kind of dad would this guy be? you want someone there that loves and wants to be a dad to this precious baby. he doesn't want your baby so i say get rid of him.he will probably continue to be irresponsible and have unprotected sex and when the next one gets pregnant he will cry that he doesn't want that baby either. he's a immature loser. don't do what he wants do what you think is best. good luck to you.

Answer 7

The decision is yours and yours only. Do you love this baby, do YOU want this baby? Those are the only questions you need to answer. Alot of children grow up without one parent or the other and do just fine. You put his name on the birth certificate, and go after him in court for child support, he has to have a DNA test done if he wants to fight it. He may not want to be part of the childs life, but he will have to help. And you never know, after it's born, he may want to be there. Good luck!

Answer 8

Your boyfriend will still be responsible for the baby.Its up to you are you ready to raise this baby on your own?If not you can put the baby up for adoption.Adoption doesnt mean that you dont love your child.

Answer 9

The decsion is absolutely your own, you have to work out what is best for you and baby. As for you boyfriend it is sometimes normal to feel like that how ever maybe he will come round to the idea, but for the moment do only what you think is best not what any one else thinks is best

Answer 10

A child is a great responsibility. Your boyfriend realizes that he isn't ready for it. He is wise. Do not force him into it. His input should matter as he will be the parent of the child ... not your parents.