this is for whoever has found their birth parents or searching. Can Birth dates and places of birth be altered

Question

I was born in Poughkeepsie on July 2 1969 name at birth Lisa Michelle Val(Vall,Valls,Vail.Vahl)people with time change their ID to hide their mistakes)My mother at the time of my birth was 31yrs old, married,and 4kids, supposely she had an affair with a guy from PR who fooled her, and here I am.On adoption.com there is a lady looking for her daughter born in July 4 1969,she was born in Syracuse,and named her baby Michelle Marie Harding now. my question. can birth certificates be altered to hide the ID of adoptee?My adopted mother changed my birth name,why not my birth date and place of birth. and on top Syracuse and Poughkeepsie NY. are very close.If anybody knows something email me [e-mail]

Answer 1

Hey Chaiotic,

It is common in an adoption to change the name of the child. I have 2 adopted kids, and they offered us to change their names. We changed their last name so we feel like a family, but they know where the come from.

Here are some sites where you can order birth certificates, and look up about adoptions.

Answer 2

I have heard so many stories about untruths on birth certificates and lies about birth parents and their babies its just sickening.
Yes, anything could have been changed. I'm not just talking about the adoptive parents changing your name to match theirs, but place of birth, birthdates, birthmother's names, (many used aliases anyway) their religions, even the sex of the child.

So my advice to you is explore every possibility. If you think you are a match exchange pictures. If you think you look similar to each other, then do a DNA test. (not that expensive anymore, especially if you split the cost)
I had to do 2 DNA test on 2 different men before I knew who my birth father was.
Don't give up! Contact those you can find and do what you can!
Unless you birth mother pulled down your diaper, she can only assume you are the sex the Dr. or Nurse said you were.
She can only assume she is at the hospital they told her she was in unless she saw the sign out front. Some mother's were in homes and kept from knowing the date, so when they had their baby they had no idea what the date really was. I know for a fact some birth certificates list the birth parents as one religion when in fact they were anonther.
Again, its just sickening!

Answer 3

Hi,

Im an Adoptee who had found my birthparents and there are a lot of factors that contribute to the outcome of your question. I am currently doing my family tree on Ancestry.com (biological) and could only find my birth certificate under my biological mother and her husbands name (I too am the product of an extramarital affair, interacial at that!) Although I know that my adopted parents recieved an amended birth certificate for me, that one does not show up in my searches. Further more I have heard of some states changing the birth date by a few days or sometimes a month to hide identities. There is a group called ALMA which helps adoptees find birth parents, if the parent is willing to meet with you they arrange it, if they are not then at least you know that they don't want to have contact with you, which is usually the result of guilt and fear that you will tell them what a sucky parent they where for giving you up etc. In my case everything was great at first, (called the honeymoon period by many) and then the reality set in, sometimes biological parents want to claim you again as their own (as my biological mother did) which I did not feel in return and it caused her great pain. I mean I liked her and was nice to her and wanted to know her, I just didnt feel mother/daughter twords her, my adoptive mother is my Mom. then there was the fact that the time to bond seemed to have passed for me, they where all just strangers with my face, I was glad that I got to find out where I came from but I cannot say that there was not a price, for me and for them. I am not implying that every scenario turns out like this one but the truth is I highly recommend that you get some counceling first to prepare you for what you may find, Sometimes it works out great and all involved are happy and they live happily ever after, sometimes it does not and I think that it is always wise to prepare yourself either way. You cannot unknow once you know. When I used to daydream about my mother as a child, She could be anything I imagined, reality is seldom like our fantasies and getting a firm grip on what may or may not be the truth about your biologicals can be a great comfort too you once you do find them. Also one closing note, when you find your biological parents you will also be opening alot of old wounds for them and you have to be prepared to deal with the guilt that may be associated with doing that to people. This can be a very happy and joyous event for all, but it can also create alot of pain too. You should know that going in. Sorry this was so long. Hope it helped. Good luck



Here is a link to ALMA
almasociety.org