What was the hardest part. (cancer)?

Question

When you find out that the person you loved very much is diagnosed with lung cancer and not very long to live, or when that person passes away?

we have not long found out, and I feel so empty, scared, and angry now. But I have to stay stronge for her.

Answer 1

My husband thought he hurt his back at work. Went to hospital was told he had pneumonia and a cracked rib it got worse went back again. He was diagnised March 20th passed June 6th. He went thru radiation chemo gamma knife procedure and took the drug tarceva. I miss himm so bad I cannot stand it. We threw barbeques for friends and family had parties went where ever he wanted to go ate what he wanted to eatwe even got up at midnight and played pool til 4 am. The hardest part was watching him disappear before my very eyes. And of course losing him. We do have children and thats the only reason I am still here. But it hurts so bad my heart is broken in a million pieces.I am still mad scared and empty. Yes do stay strong and let her know you love her and that she is important to you. So very sorry. Good luck

Answer 2

I am so sorry for your predicament. You sound like a wonderful partner. I have lost grandparents to cancer, but no one immediately close to me to cancer. I did lose a daughter in a house fire. I am glad that she did not live long to suffer from her injuries, but I wish I had the chance to say goodbye to her before she left us. What you are feeling is completely normal. You need to talk with her about your feelings, and hers. She is probably just as scared, if not more so. Support each other and enjoy what time is left to you together. Do things she has always wanted to do. Go if she is able to places she has always wanted to go. If you can't go physically, watch videos of favorite destinations. Often you can find them for free at public libraries. Allow friends and family to share some time with her. They will need some closure too. If you are religious, lean on the Lord. He helped my husband and I through our time of grief. He will help you too.
Give her a hug from me.

Answer 3

Stay strong, but also keep things real. Don't try and paint a rosey picuture to try and cheer her up. At the same time, don't be a downer. Just be honest about your feelings, and be sure to be a listening ear for her. Sometimes you just have to be. There is nothing you can say or do to fix it, but just being there makes all the difference in the world. Oh, and one more thing....Be sure she knows that it's okay for her to let go. Telling someone to fight a losing battle is selfish, so please make sure she knows it's okay to go.

Source:
Mother and three siblings died from cancer.

Answer 4

Its not easy, but good support can help the family AND the sufferer. Is there a local support group (medical and / or emotional) you could get help from. Learn about the cancer, it can make you feel less helpless. Help in the care and be there if your lovel one wants to talk. Let them talk about dying if they want to, even if it is painful for you.
My Mum died a couple of years ago and I know how you feel. When my mum went I actually felt relief that she was out of pain and no longer suffering. I still miss her now all this time later....;

Answer 5

dying is so easy and we are always so busy with life and we forget that actually death is part of our life's story.
your loved one wil die and her body will decompose and water in it will go and become drops of rain in oceans.
her other elements give rise to plants and soil.

and from her cakes will be made for hungry child.
she will not die, she will be with us for ever.

celebrate life events, good or bad.
as we celebrate life events we cry, as this drama's every second is so tense and unique.

Answer 6

It's never easy I'll pray for you.