who i know is sort of his type but she's not "fun" and "spontaneous" (which he calls me). he wanted to keep seeing me as friends but i told him that i needed time apart till i've moved on completely too. we were in a serious relationship together so i don't think we'll ever completely get over eachother.but umm... i tried not seeing/talking to him for 5 days, and... i can't say that i miss him all that much. i've also met someone new online (who goes to my college and seems relatively normal). i can feel myself moving on, but... sometimes i wish me and my ex could really just be friends. but also i feel like if he had to leave to see his new girlfriend, i'd feel somewhat snubbed (even if i shouldn't). recently, after i stopped contact with him, he put an away message up that says "depression hurts". i'm pretty sure it has something to do with me cutting contact. the thing is, he JUST started a new relationship with a nice girl, so why's he depressed now? should i talk to him?
2006-11-19 08:32:51 · 9 answers · asked by l_brew0 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl, move on already!
2006-11-19 08:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by Goodie66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't talk to him. He's playing the 'guilt' game because he knows it'll probably work on you. And it is working, you're feeling jealous that he got a new girl and you already want to go back to him. He's playing you good, but stay strong and keep moving on. If he's still into the 'guilt' game and even using another girl to get back at you then you know he's definitely not worth your time. Especially if it's been an off and on relationship.
2006-11-19 08:36:41 · answer #2 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
On again; Off again; this is a relationship that
will never really work. It seems to me now that
you have gone your way and he his then do just
that. As for being friends, distant friends is a
better selection because sometimes feelings
can get in the way of a relationship and it would
not be good for either of you if you had other
mates. So make up ur mind that if it is over bet-
ween you and him then keep ur friendship dis-
tant.
2006-11-19 08:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, "being friends" after a break up just doesn't work. In fact, I would say for the most part it doesn't work. Old feeling make it impossible. You have to move on and the way to do that is to leave the past behind.
2006-11-19 08:36:40 · answer #4 · answered by jare bare 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you both need a little time to do your own thing. Maybe being in a new relationship will show you that you either cant live without him, or make you think, man, why did i waste so much of my time with him. Going back and forth with each other is not fair to either of you, or the new people in your lives.
2006-11-19 08:36:07 · answer #5 · answered by joniwarren22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay friends, and wait until eventually you're prepared. As months or perhaps many years flow by, and also you nonetheless love one yet another, then you could flow for it. bear in mind, you won't be able to be petrified of having your heart damaged, some severe college relationships do very last a lengthy time period.
2016-11-29 07:02:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him because ignoring him won't help. And if you still like him then maybe you can still be girl/boyfriends. I think he says that because he still has feelings for you. Don't be his friend it's too wierd, known from past. You should talk to him because then you will no exactly what is going on. Do what your heart says.
2006-11-19 08:38:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever..... just move on. he may be putting that up knowing that you will see it, but seriously, that is ridiculous and immature.
if he needs to talk to you, he knows where to find you... if you two really know and love each other so much, then eventually you will get over your hurt feelings.
and just because you don't really want to see him with someone else doesn't mean that you should be together either.
like i said, just move on.
2006-11-19 08:37:07 · answer #8 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he obviously still has a lot of feelings for u. but time will tell. from experience no contact is a lot easier than jus friends because u will alwayz remember wat u had
2006-11-19 08:35:19 · answer #9 · answered by NiCoYa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋