My son has been asking for acting lesson's and i said no and now he says he hates me and that hes moveing in with his father because i dont care about him what should i do let him have the class(if so what do i do to get him into movies/tv/commecials).
2006-11-19 08:28:43 · 10 answers · asked by Kevin G 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You need to talk to the father about your sons manipulation.
As parents, even though you are not together, you have to have a united front when it comes to rules and behaviour.
Your son is playing you off each other and the older he gets the worse it will get if you dont stop it now.
He cant just say he is going to move in with his dad the minute he doesnt get his own way.
He may want acting lessons but that is not really the issue here, it is the way he is going about getting what he wants through bad manipulation techniques.
I have three children who all tried the same thing. They soon found out it didnt work because their father and I decided we were sick of getting pushed around by them.
2006-11-19 08:35:58 · answer #1 · answered by kate d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't let him have the classes just to keep him from going to move with his father. He is trying to control you. I would talk to his father and tell him what is going on. Get his opinion on the situation. I don't think that the court will change custody agreements based on the child not getting 'his way'. You are the adult and can't give in to this blackmail. Hopefully you have a good relationship with his Father and can work together on this issue.
Perhaps when your son stops making threats you can speak with him about the acting lessons and why you don't want him to have them. Is there some sort of way you can meet in the middle? But NOT until he stops making threats.
2006-11-19 16:38:07 · answer #2 · answered by Proud to be APBT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't give in - if you do he'll learn that by throwing a strop he'll get his way and this will only be the start.
being a good parent is not about giving what ever your child wants to it, and you obviously must have reasons for saying no, so don't back down. by saying he'll move in with his father he is emotionally blackmailing you - don't let him.
kids often say things like "i hate you" when they don't get their way, and he'll probably change his mind about what he wants to be in about 5 seconds anyway.
even if he does have a burning ambition to be an actor, there is nothing to stop him from taking it up later on - many actors go to university and get a decent degree before taking any steps towards an acting career!
2006-11-19 16:33:54 · answer #3 · answered by pinkfudge27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't just give in to him for the reason that he told you he is going to go and live with his father, that is basically buying his love and there's no need for that.
Before you decide whether or not you will let him take the lessons, you should think about why you said no in the first place. If it was a good reason, then maybe you should stick with it and say no. However if you just said no without really thinking about it and now realize maybe it's not such a bad idea, then maybe it's not such a bad idea!
2006-11-19 16:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all if your kid is taking that drastic of measures to "punish you" then he is acting like a spoiled kid. But i do see how much he might want be an actor. Acting as a great art and learning how to act from classes really gives you a lot of experience. I'm an actress and my management company has some really great acting class that gives you a lot of chances to express yourself creatively and its a great learning experience.
Here is a link to my management company and perhaps it can help you decide whether or not it is the right thing to do.
http://www.theesinetwork.com/
2006-11-19 16:37:24 · answer #5 · answered by katylnn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you will help him pack his bags! when he realizes that you wont bite to his threats then he will probably go and stay with his dad, i guess he will last a few days then he will be back when he realizes he has a much easier life at home with you!
tell him if he still wants to do acting in 6 months then you will discuss acting classes further!
2006-11-19 16:37:36 · answer #6 · answered by paballaba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how old he is...But if that's what he wants, pack a suitcase and give it to him...If you give him everything he wants,then what do you do if you cannot give him something..If he wants to threaten you by saying things like that,then to me he is manipulating you in getting what he wants...Stand tough,and if he thinks his father will send him to acting school(probably not) then he will have a rude awakening...Good luck
2006-11-19 17:37:41 · answer #7 · answered by Frank D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st why did you say no? examine your reasons for that first.
If you do decide to let him take lessons, you best let him know it's not because he "won" it's because you re-thought your position and then explain why and how you re-thought it. If you don't do this, then you will have taught him how to blackmail his way to anything he wants.
2006-11-19 16:32:13 · answer #8 · answered by icynici 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to buy your child's love. If he's old enough to choose where he wants to live he's old enough to start looking into a performing arts college.
2006-11-19 16:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by iampatsajak 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him in to modeling. That's how most child actors get their start. They start modeling and then it's "hey wanna do this commercial?" and then later on it's "there's a role in this show we want you to play..". Maybe try that.
2006-11-19 16:31:00 · answer #10 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋