Why are parents so stupid to allow their baby to "cry it out"?

Answer 1

I don't know if it's stupidity so much as just plain laziness. They want an easy child and the way to get one (so they think) is to teach a child that their needs are not important- a kid who believes that will suffer through almost anything you do to them. Also the problem is that many kids learn this lesson well at first and the evidence of the devastating effects of cry-it-out do no become evident until toddlerhood or even later. Unfortunately what they don't realize is that kids whose needs are met are well-adjusted and happy and thus much more cooperative and fun to be around. A lot of people also will just believe anything any "expert" tells them even if the expert advice is outdated junk from the 50's (and it wasn't even true then).

Spanish butterfly, lungs are not a muscle. Whoever told you that? They are an organ. And they don't need to be "worked out" by crying- breathing works just fine for that. And just because doctors say it's okay doesn't mean it is. They don't teach them that in medical school so you're just getting the doctor's personal opinion. My pediatrician thinks it's a bad idea. Medical school they learn what impetigo looks like and how to tell if a baby has RSV, not whether it's "okay" to let a baby cry.

Answer 2

I absolutely cannot stand people who are so judge mental. With that said, let me ask you a question. Why are some parents so stupid to reward bad behavior? I happen to be one of those "stupid parents" who let their baby "cry it out". Did you know that crying is actually GOOD for a baby? Straight from the mouth of my son's pediatrician. As long as a baby is not in pain or danger, it does not hurt them to cry it out, and actually helps start teaching life lessons very early. So, run and grab your baby every time he cries if you want, and I'll just let mine cry. In a few years, we'll see who's baby understands the word "no". Kay?

EDIT

Should have elaborated a little more, my son is two, so yeah, I let him cry. Up until 5 mons,. I jumped at his every whimper. After that, if there was nothing he needed, I let him cry. So, no I wouldn't let a 3 wk. old lay around and cry. But a few months old, and older? Yeah, sorry, I guess you can just call me STUPID!

Answer 3

Parents are not stupid. Most parents have heard the old wives tell about if everytime the baby cries don't pick it up or you will spoil them. However, you have to use this with caution because most of the time a baby is crying for a reason, whether it be hunger, wetness, or just needs some affection.

Answer 4

Actually in some ways letting your baby cry is good BUT ONLY FOR A LIMITED amount of time. You see, the crying will help them strengthen their lungs and keep them clear, ( especially a newborn who may still have mucus) But the limit a baby should cry a day is NO MORE than 30 minutes; ( and not all at once)
As for "spoiling" you just can't. It is impossible, because a baby cries for NECESSITIES. They cry because they are hungry or wet. You cannot spoil a baby.
But as the child get's older, like over one year, then YES, let them cry, because now they are crying for things OTHER THAN what they need. And if you keep running to them, they got you where they want you.

Answer 5

This is a tactic that is very effective in certain situations with a child. For instance... I know a family who has a child who will cry every single time he is told "NO" for any reason. He forces himself to cry to get the parents to say "YES" and it usually works. He has learned that crying is a device to get what he wants.

Seperately, I know another family that had the same problem with their child. They began letting the child "cry it out" and before too long the child had realized that his device of crying was no longer effective to get what he wanted and therefore stopped doing it.

Parents are not so stupid to let their child "cry it out" as it may seem. It is more "stupid" to give into the crying (in these instances) and teach the child how to manipulate the parents.

Answer 6

First of all, by the idiocy of your question I am assuming you may not be a parent.

Secondly, if a baby is dry, fed, warm, comfortable and gas-free, it can be exceptionally difficult for a parent to maintain calm if a child continues to cry. Sometimes the best thing to do is to put the child down in his/her crib and take a break.

I have been witness to mothers and fathers who jump to their feet the SECOND their child makes any kind of noise. When their child is awake, they are fussy, needy and frankly, annoying. My son is a healthy, strong, well adjusted child - and I have let him cry it out on a few occassions. He knows how to put himself to sleep - he knows he is safe and that if there really is something wrong I will take care of it.

Real reason - parents know what different cries mean, and can tell if their child is in distress or if they are just grumpy and want to be left alone.

Come back when you have something intelligent to say, or have something to back up your arguement.

Answer 7

How dare you. I think it is irresponsible to raise your baby/toddler/child to wake up numerous times a night and come into your room when they are old enough. The inability for a child to learn to put themselves to sleep when they wake in the night can have long lasting consequences. I have done the cry it out approach for all of my children (3) when they were old enough (around 6 months) and it only took a couple nights of occasional crying and now they are awesome sleepers, never have a problem falling to sleep or stayiing asleep at night. It was not because I was lazy or cruel, it was because I cared about them enough to know that they needed to learn how to put themselves back to sleep when they "naturally wake" at night. Some children do this on their own, some need a little help from their parents. I hope you have children that wake you up every night for the next 18 years!!

Answer 8

because babies cant communicate like adults do and sometimes they need to get stuff off their chest by crying....thats not stupid...wat is stupid is wen the parents runs to them as soon as they start crying....they will become very dependent on that and expect everything given to them right away....i let my daughter cry for a few min a day and it helps her..once she is done shes all happy and smiling again....

Answer 9

Because they are afraid of "spoiling" and getting a demanding baby. If a baby is under 6 months old, spoiling does not happen. Comforting a baby is not only loving, it gives security and helps the baby learn to be patient in the long run.

Answer 10

my youngest daughter is now 15 months old and i do let her "cry it out" now but when she was smaller i use to go get her and comfort her every time she made a noise until she was around a year old. i was very sleep deprived though because she was still waking up in the middle of the night and all she wanted was for me to sleep next to her. i had to put an end to that so when she would wake up i just let her cry and she would go back to sleep on her own. children need to learn how to comfort themselves too. now she sleeps all night long because i didn't run to her everytime she made a little whine.