My partner and her family are concerned that their mother is in danger for her sanity and her life at the hands of their step father. She has been admitted to hospital twice in 12 month, I think for overdosing, and after a few weeks of their care is sent back home. He will not allow the family to see her without causing a fuss and the strain is now telling. When the Social Services are informed they say that unless the mother raises the alarm there is nothing the family can do???? If a child is under threat is this the same reaction????Does anyone have the answer????
2006-11-19 08:21:41 · 24 answers · asked by Bluefurball 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell the family to phone the police as it is no longer classed as a domestic they can step in and press charges of assault with out her pressing charges
2006-11-19 08:25:27 · answer #1 · answered by mcginty 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has any of the family offered to let her come and stay with them? if not maybe someone should.with her taking pills and overdosing does not make it seem like he is doing any thing wrong. if this were my mother i would not care if he made a fuss my a** would go there as often as possible.if he gets mad and says you have to leave tell him the only way you are leaving is with your mother.if he becomes violent call the police.then this will be documented and then social services will step in. but as long as the mother stays there and makes no complaints about him. know one can help her. but as her family, you could do what i said and take it from there.
2006-11-19 08:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In any case the police need to be notified, for further investigating the case. Your mother needs to be prepared to go to the police and make a formal statement, saying this is what he is doing. They will then bring him in for questioning, she needs to be 100% sure this is what she wants, to retract a statement is very hard. If she is suffering tell her to leave, her life has got to get better than being where she is now. As far as the question of a child, that also needs to reported to the police and the social services. Good luck.Don't suffer in silence.
2006-11-19 08:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact the police. Many police forces in the UK have now adopted a policy of not waiting for the victim of domestic abuse to complain. They will act on 3rd party complaints.
If you feel a child is at risk, then call the NSPCC.
Social services of the local council have to work within their guidelines which may not allow them to intervene unless children or vulnerable adults (eg disabled, mentally frail) are involved.
You could also consult a specialist agency like Women's Aid http://www.womensaid.org.uk/
2006-11-19 09:01:18 · answer #4 · answered by Bridget F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in this case you would have to notify the police, but unless the person in question wants help there is not a lot you can do.Cant you visit her when he is not there to get the whole story she may be depressed, offer to go to the doctors with her she may open up to him about her problems.The longer the situation goes on for the lower the mother will get and lose all self confidence and probably believe she is being treated normally.
2006-11-19 10:28:24 · answer #5 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
K, first of all, the police are just going to go by there and ask her without him present of she isok. If she is afraid of the arsehole, she probably will not say anything.\
What I would do? I would kidnap her. I would take her to a friend of the family's house and buckle down with a good therapist and her. I suspect if she knows she's safe she'll open up after her original anger with your subsides. Damn, some people don't get it and you would regret not snatching her out of it. Good luck to you and yoru partner and just get it done!
2006-11-19 08:32:22 · answer #6 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different rules apply to adults.
I wonder if the mother feels that the authorities know because she's been hospitalised. Iask because of something which happened to my mother and she felt 'protected' because the incident was 'on record'. She was not aware that because of patient confidentiality it didn't count and my sister and I told her that if an similar incident occurred she should call the police.........then it really is on record. Slightly different, I know, but if you, your partner and her family are concerned then the police should be your first port of call.
2006-11-23 08:11:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Social services can't do anything unless the victim(adult) admits that abuse is taking place. For a child in abusive situation social services will step in if they receive a complaint to investigate it.
2006-11-19 08:33:54 · answer #8 · answered by cs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if the mother hides it.. they can't really do anything unless they see a proof that he beats her up.. you can try to have a grownup family member talk to the mother and see if she listenes if that doesn't work out.. keep reporting to social services by different names or something maybe that will raise there attention and hteye will do something about it.
2006-11-19 08:31:10 · answer #9 · answered by ohhh lalalala 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a child is in danger they are suppose to intervene on the child behave and take them out of the house and if an adult stays and takes the abuse then it is stupid because she can get away from it because Avery state has safe houses for them and there children to stay and they will help them stay safe and get them help from Lawry's and welfare fro them.
2006-11-19 08:38:42 · answer #10 · answered by fonda b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage the woman to seek help. She should get an order of protection and then press charges against the SOB but if she will not do anything to help herself, there is little that you can do for her. when she has had enough and wants to get away from this creep then you can be supportive and help her but she must want to do something about it herself.
2006-11-19 08:32:41 · answer #11 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋