The history is that we have been friends for 6 years and "close" on and off (relationship)friends for 5 years of those 6 years. He made the effort to commit to me a month ago and I had to tell him about a one night thing and another small instance. Both times were an off period in our relationship. I told him because he deserves to know if we were going to be committed to each other.
I am mad at him for breaking it off with me for being honest. He had sex with 5 other women in between our relationship the only difference is he told me with in 3 months after and I told him over a year and a half after. Before this there was no possibility of being a committed couple.
I am so up set at him about this and I think I have a right to be.
2006-11-19 08:11:05 · 8 answers · asked by Mai Ling 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah u have a right to be angry. at least u r not with him anymore and don't have to worry about any future outbursts from him.
2006-11-19 08:14:20 · answer #1 · answered by Miki 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he felt that you had a "window" of opportunity to be honest and come clean, just like he did. By withholding the information for a year and a half, that makes you look a little shady, I must admit. Also, he probably is more emotionally involved at this time, so he's dealing with the hurt of it all, PLUS the timing of it all (you waiting so long to tell him). Unfortunately for you, he has the right to not be equitable and break things off...for some men it's like that: what's good for the gander is NOT good for the goose, no matter how unfair it seems. Maybe you should move on from this relationship - if it's been off and on for 6 years, it's obviously more off than on, and it shouldn't take 6 years to commit to someone if you care for/love them enough to want them in your life as a significant other.
2006-11-19 16:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people think that their past indiscretions don't matter to the person they are with. Look at the movie Clerks where he tells her how many girls he was with and then he gets mad at the fact that she went down on 36 guys.
It really is just feelings, and how you handle your partner being with other people. If he knew some of the people you were with then he might not take it so lightly. If you were truley off and he slept with other girls then we are quick to say "what does it matter?" It just depends on how he percieves you. He may have thought you were a "good" girl and he was expecting a return to innocence.
My advice is if he were to walk away over this...it is for the best. If he can't respect your past...he can't respect you. Find a nice guy you can openely communicate with and be honest with. Also find a guy that likes truth rather then a fairy tale. I would much rather "know" my girlfriend then to percieve she is something that she is not.
2006-11-19 16:17:13 · answer #3 · answered by ÐIESEŁ ÐUB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are right
2006-11-19 16:16:15 · answer #4 · answered by MEB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is wrong. but he is only human, we all make mistakes.
2006-11-19 16:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by barbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him .
he is a loser and a player.
you can do much better than this
2006-11-19 16:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure, your feelings aren't right or wrong, they just are.
2006-11-19 16:14:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him
2006-11-19 16:14:51 · answer #8 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋