I've officially hit a low point ..?

Question

My (over a year long) crush thinks my best friend is hot. I'm taking 3 AP's and my grades are going down the drain. I feel super ugly and not worth anyone's time and all my physical insecurities have come out. I have a headache from my braces being tightened. I think I'm depressed, but my parents won't believe me. The only thing keeping me alive right now is excercise, and that high won't even last for more than 10 hrs.
HELP!

Plus, I'm paranoid I'm going to end up alone. I'm sixteen, and haven't even had my first kiss.

Answer 1

Well honey, I must say that I have been there. I am 23 and experienced a similar situation. Believe me I thought High School was the real world (while attending) but after graduation EVERYONE changes and so do your priorities. Why not get a head of the game and change your priorities now.

My best friend always got the guys I liked. They always noticed her instead of me. They would become friends with me first just to get close to her. I basically felt that I was never the chosen one and eventually felt ugly and not good enough. Something changed for me in college. I stopped letting it bother me and focused more on my studies. Now I am a successful business woman who's in very good shape with a great job and guys lining up at my door. As for my friend, we are still best friends but she didn't finish college, now she is working at Texas Road House has been there for 6 years and gained 30lbs. No one is looking at her any more. There is life after High school, popularity, band geeks, nerds and jocks don't matter any more.

So here’s what you should try on: You really need to sit back and think about why your grades are dropping. What ever it is there is a way to over come it. I can't help you over come it until you know what it is.

As far as feeling supper ugly "DONT". You are an intelligent young woman who is gorgeous. Go buy your self a new out fit or new hair or makeup products. Something that you feel would enhance your appearance.

Feeling that your not worth anyone's time, make it so that no one is worth your time. If someone wants to spend time with you then make them wait until you can look at your schedule. Having 3 AP classes should keep you pretty busy. Make people feel like they have to schedule you 3 weeks in advance just to talk on the phone.

Take headache medicine for your headache and then take a 3 hour nap.

Depression only happens if you allow it. Stop letting other peoples actions and words control your emotions. Don't get me wrong you should always allow your self to express your emotions, make sure you express them fully, don't hold back. If you feel like crying then cry until you can't no more. Same thing with laughing and smiling and anything else that comes up. Play full out with your emotions, if you suppress them they will always linger around. Get it all out and then you can move on to the next one.

Your parents won't believe that you are depressed because they believe IN you. Believe in your self.

Lastly Keep reminding your self that boys are not worth your time right now. Say "I have bigger plans". Focus on your studies and stop worrying about silly high school boys.

Trust me, once you change your way of thinking you will be unstoppable. Best of luck. If you want you can reach me at [e-mail]

Answer 2

I'm a 17 yr old guy and basically in the same position you are, heck im even takin 3 AP's lol. You have to realize though that you're only 16 and that there's a lot of time to make something happen. And if people say no or don't like you then there's nothin you can do about it. You just stand up and keep movin on.

Answer 3

Well all I can say is in a nice way get over he and move on look for a guy that thinks your hot and be knowing what you want in a guy and look for it but first get those grades up girl and work hard for it and I know you can not be ugly because look at your avatar you and her look nice. If you need a friend to talk to talk to your best friend or email me and I will help. All I can say is "Go for the Gold and work hard at school."

Answer 4

Okay, first of all he just thinks your best friend is hot nothing else its not like he loves her.. and plus NOONE is worth your stress no matter who it is.. and even if does start to date your friend.. just move on, he prolly doesn't deserve to be with you, you will find lots of other guys (from seeing you take AP classes that means you are still in high school and you have the whole life ahead of you) don't take this so hard, jsut move on and enjoy.

Answer 5

Maybe you should talk to your guidance counselor or the school psychologist about your feelings and maybe they could get your parents support by talking to them personally about what's been going on with you. And don't worry about having a boyfriend right now. You are only sixteen years old. You have a long life ahead of you. Just focus on your studies.

Answer 6

k, your crush probably thinks loads of girls are hot, including you, but he probably likes you for more reasons than that (i think loads of girls are hot, but im in love with one girl)... you are trying too hard on your grades and worrying too much about them, focus more on the more enjoyable parts of your life, or focus on making ur life more enjoyable... you are not super ugly im sure, and you are worth everyone's time, as a matter of fact, ppl should have to earn the right to get to spend ther time with you, almost all girls have physical insecurities and almost all of them are wrong, besides, the nice guys are gonna be looking past that kind of thing anywayz... take medicine for your headache or just take the time to rest your head every now and then, maybe find a nice guy who will let u rest your head on his chest or shoulder... you are only depressed if you let ur life get depressing, take the time to make yourself happy and worry less about everything, enjoy yourself every now and then.. dont even talk about stuff "keeping you alive" you keep u alive cuz u sure as h*ll deserve to live for every reason... excercise is a very good thing for everybody, but u shud find other things you like to do and do them, itll be much more awesomer for u, then u wont get bored of doing it... im not interested in any kind of relationship now (just so u dont take this wrong) but if u need a good friend to talk to or somethin, then send me an email or IM me or somethin, u can never have too many friends! and feel better!

Answer 7

Sweetie.. I know it feels like you're the ONLY person who's 16 and not kissed a guy, or like you'll never meet the right guy for you, but trust me... it'll happen. And to make you feel better, I didn't have my first kiss till I was 18. Now that I'm 26, the fact that it didn't happen till then isn't even an issue.. I don't even think about it anymore. You've got SO much time to meet guys, date, kiss, and everything else. Don't worry about it. :) Work on finding things that make you happy, it'll boost your self confidence and make it that much easier to meet guys. They're attracted to women who feel good about themselves. Hope that helps a little..

Answer 8

you sound depressed....clinical depression is being depressed for more than two weeks in a row. if your parents dont believe you, try to talk to someone else...a teacher, a school counselor, ANYONE. your gut usually tells you whats going on...if you think youre depressed, you probably are. denial is common, so dont ignore your gut. you definitely need some type of professional help to help you investigate the problem. your primary care physicial is a good place to start...you can tell your doctor what you're feeling, like what you just said hear, and they can help you out with what to do from there. try to convince your parents to at least let you go to the doctor. if that doesnt work, like i said, talk to a teacher, a friend's parent, a school counselor, any adult that you trust...

p.s. NO offense to anyone who answered, but if you feel like youre depressed, you NEED to investigate the problem. maybe a few sessions of therapy will make it go away...maybe you need medication. maybe you just need to continue exercisisng and continue with therapy for awhile. these people on here do not know if you're depressed or not....you are the absolute BEST gauge of your feelings. its worth looking in to. and its ok that youre going through a difficult time right now. its ok that you feel this way...dont let anyone tell you how you do or do not feel. writing your feelings and thoughts down and practicing some form of spiritual relaxation like yoga is a great idea...very therapeutic. go with your gut....and although there is stigma attached to feeling depressed, insecure, and goint to therapy, these are natural feelings and theres nothing wrong wtih feeling this way. go get the help thats out there and that you deserve!

Answer 9

Try to move on. your only sixteen and try to focus on more important things right now then getting a boy friend like focusing more on school. You have the rest of your life ahead of u and dont ruin that by doing something stupid. Someone will like u for u and nobody else.

Answer 10

Focus on the future! This will be a time you later look back on with any number of emotions, but at least you will be looking back on it! Effort you put into yourself now will serve you for the rest of your life. Effort you put into tenuous relationships and insecurities will only drag you down. You are doing great, really!

PS That first kiss will come, never fear!