i love him i really do i just don't know if i can handle his lifestyle he is his job 24 hours a day 7 days a week 365 days a year. I know that eventually it is going to cause problems with me and him. I am high maintence and i know it. I really fear that one day i will not be able to handle him being gone spur of the moment all the time the way he is now. I really want to try and work on things to try and make the relationship last but is it fair to him??? He knows in his heart he'll never be able to walk away from a fire or a car wreck. I want to think that i am a big enough person to be okay with that but i know that i am not. should i walk away now before i hurt him before we fight or should i stay and try to make it work??? in essence is it better to have loved and lost or is it better to walk away while both hearts are still intact
2006-11-19 08:02:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i DON'T THINK HIS JOB IS A BAD THING. I love that he does what he does for a living!!!! i just don't know that i me who i am can adjust to the life style his job entails. and whether or not he is working he will never walk away from his job if he needs it
2006-11-19 08:11:37 · update #1
Let me get this straight... you have a wonderful man who is willing to help others in their time of need, to jump up at anytime to help others. He is unselfish and giving of himself and you wander if its a bad thing???? OMG send him this way...You know what?? HE is too good for YOU .. walk away and let him find a REAL woman that will appreciate all that he has to offer.
2006-11-19 08:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by nease174 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be surprised if he were away 24/7..generally it's 24 on and 48 off or 3 12s and 3 days off.
You: I want to think that i am a big enough person to be okay with that but i know that i am not.
I think you know the answer. 8-5 is never going to happen with his job. If you cannot adjust then yes, it's time to leave.
2006-11-19 16:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hurt him cause he seems like a good guy. If you think that walk away it's the best thing for both of you then go ahead
2006-11-19 16:05:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling for you , young un. He's a gem and you want all of him........24/7? So when do you want him to work 8-9 pm when you are in the bubble bath?
2006-11-19 16:18:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend is an unselfish person, and he doesn't deserve someone selfish. leave him, and he'll find someone who cares enough about others. do him a favor, because you don't seem like you want to change, or at least try to change. there are very few people who have a heart towards the sick or injured, and since he is one of them, just let him find someone who deserves him.
2006-11-19 16:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look up 1st. Corinthians chapter 13 vs. 4-7. It will open up your heart and guide you where you need to. Trust your heart not your head.
2006-11-19 16:15:14 · answer #6 · answered by Joe J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U 2 should see a counselor 1st. U have to weigh the pros and the cons.
2006-11-19 16:04:39 · answer #7 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋