I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. I love him more than anything. There is nothing wrong between us, great mental side of the relationship, sex life, everything. He is not even jealous. But thats cause he trusts me. He loves me more than anything and we have an ideal relationship.
The thing is, he is my first bf. First boy I kissed, slept with, everything. And I am his first too. I'm 19, he's 20.
There is this mate, who I really like and he is my bfs friend. I find him extremely attractive, he finds me attractive as he told me, and we flirt. I am a very adventurous person and I like to explore new things. After 3 years, I would like to try something new. I feel very guilty, I dont wanna hurt my boyfriend. He doesnt deserve it. But the truth is, I can imagine ksising this guy. And it MIGHT happen if I wont be able to control myself. I like flirting w/ him.I keep tellin mysel its normal. I am just a human and I have hormones, etc. My bf knows it,says I worry about it too much
2006-11-19 07:40:17 · 7 answers · asked by Maria 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you love your boyfriend and want your relationship to work, to last? You are going to have temptations of one kind or another throughout your life. We all do. If you don't want to lose your boyfriend and your good relationship with him, start by NOT flirting with another guy no matter how attractive he is. Of course you can control yourself. Don't use that as an excuse for betraying your boyfriend. Flirt with the one you're with. Explore new things with the one you're with. The one you love. Your boyfriend may act like it doesn't matter but trust me...it matters. The fact that you worry about it should tell you it's not right and it's something you need to stop doing. It will put a huge hole in the middle of your relationship if you don't stop your behavior!
2006-11-19 07:47:45 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG..When I read your question I thought it was my question. I have been in a relationship for 3 years also. He is everything you described about your man. My fiance loves me so much and cares about me. He trust me beyond belief. It's so relieving that I've found someone that is going through the exact samething I am. I have this incredible urge to kiss another guy. That's all I want to do. But when I told my man how I felt he got very upset and has been trying to change. Unlike you, I do not have a guy that is ready and willing. I could just call up an ex or someone that I know that would kiss me. I just don't want to go through finding someone to do that. Plus I've been debating on if I should cuz I don't want to hurt him. If you find help plz help me too. If you do it let me know so we can talk. Cuz I really need advice on this. If I were you I would kiss a guy that had no connections to my boyfriend cuz then you're just looking for trouble. Keep me posted...
2006-11-19 15:55:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's a copout to say you couldn't control yourself. You are the only one who could. It's wrong to cheat on your bf with another guy, his best friend no less, just because he looks good now. You take who you are to your grave, and one day you will be going there, just like everyone else. How do you want to see yourself? I totally trust my wife because we have no doubts. Since you do, maybe you and bf should bu, which is 'break up' because you do not deserve to be with him.
2006-11-19 15:45:56 · answer #3 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is you know already its wrong to cheat & that it is no different to a liar!!!
break it off first with your boy friend before you kiss & carry on with his mate although that is just as bad because it is his mate you are making your boyfriend not only lose you but his mate as well
2006-11-19 16:37:57 · answer #4 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you're afraid of kissing someone else and hurting your boyfriend, then you need to breakup with him. If you cannot control your actions, you shouldn't be with such a trusting and loving guy.
He deserves respect... and if you fear you're going to something with his friend, then you need to separate yourself from him for a bit so you can get your act together and find out what you really need.
2006-11-19 15:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wonder what you would do if the shoe where on the other foot . It's pretty clear already your a sneak, and if you go for it , it will lead to mulitiple lie's , And now your about to betray your mans trust by cheating on him . Tell you what , move to cali where being a scallywag hoe is common place and you won't have to worry.
2006-11-19 16:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by mdk159 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To that I answer this:
If you know you would kiss this other guy if you had the chance and that your boyfriend wouldn't find out, then you're already cheating on him.
2006-11-19 15:42:52 · answer #7 · answered by Daniel C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋