2006-11-19 07:38:14 · 9 answers · asked by Lau P 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
no... just make sure he has some male influence....and doint rush into a relationship just because you think he needs a father.... have a nice male friend... or something..... dont rush into it... expecially if things dont work out and the child likes him.. it owuld be good....
2006-11-19 07:41:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A male role model is essential for proper development. A father is not. A father is better than an alternative provided the father is a good role model.
Remember that whomever you marry will be your child's father. That is something EVERYONE in the family will need to accept. The best thing that you can do is to marry for yourself. If you find a good husband, the fatherhood issue will fall into place naturally. If you find a bad husband, fatherhood will not be the best thing for him and the children...or yourself.
Take your time. As long as they have a real man somewhere in their lives, such as uncle or grandfather or cousin, they should do well. Also, if you do not provide a good role model, children will look for one without discretion as to whether the model is good or bad. They will find them at school, in the street, on T. V. They may or may not find a good one.
2006-11-19 16:13:13 · answer #2 · answered by Jack 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not mandatory to find another father for your child.
Dont just enter into a relationship for the sake of having a father for your child that could be the biggest mistake.
Firstly give yourself time if you find someone worthy out there and if they love you and except everyone that comes along with with and wants to take on that role then thats good.
But you can't expect or force or assume that a next man wants that responsiblity. A man has to be willing on their own.
Mostly your child will love you no matter what even if there is no father there. I think people put to much nonsense into our heads making us believe that we need a father for our children to thrive.
Well children need their mothers most of all no matter what!
It be great if father could maintan the same as us but unfortunatley most of men these days don't care for women with children.
So don't foucus your raising of your child around looking for a father for that child. Just love your child and be glad you have your child because your child will love you unconditionally back in return as you love your child uncondtionally.
If you do encounter someone one day that wants the father role than all the happiness to you. but it's not going happen over night.
2006-11-19 15:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every child needs a male role model in some form. It doesn't have to be a father but someone who the child sees on a regular basis. It can be a friend, a grandparent etc as long as they have a male in their life everything should be ok.
2006-11-19 15:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by mommysrock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not a mistake. Considering what most children go through with step parents, they will be better off with one loving fully devoted parent. If you bring a new man into your life for your own purposes, it could be devastating to the children. Remarrying should be the exception rather than the rule. If you find someone who is devoted to your children and wants a ready made family, under certain circumstances, it is acceptable to remarry. Do not remarry for solely financial reasons. Your children need all of your attention, and unless your future husband can replace the attention of yours that they will lose to him, you are better off alone.
2006-11-19 15:56:42 · answer #5 · answered by swimmermom1107 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am adopted, so I have an "authentic" answer. Having the "REAL" mother and father will ALWAYS come secondary to having a QUALITY and LOVING mother and father.
Find a QUALITY man and that child will love him with all his heart. Your only decision is when do you tell him about his/her real dad.
I knew early on, and I felt that was the right way to do it, because my parents would tell me early on they loved me so much. That made things so simple to deal with. Never an "Issue."
2006-11-19 15:51:41 · answer #6 · answered by HowardSternMorning 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no its not a mistake a child needs to have a father figure in his/her life
2006-11-19 15:40:59 · answer #7 · answered by Betsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider giving him at least one parent who knows what unconditional love is, and who can exude the confidence that comes from having their own answers.
2006-11-19 15:41:34 · answer #8 · answered by jonas_tripps_79 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is up to the childs mother..
Im sure that the child can be fine in a single parent household..
It is something you will have to decide on whats best for yourself on your own...
2006-11-19 15:40:34 · answer #9 · answered by The Chesire Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋