i eventually got enough courage to tell my friend by txt tht i loved her. but she didnt reply so i told her that it was my friend who txt it not me. i did this cus i felt that she didnt txt me bck cus she didnt love me.so i covered up my tracks to save our friendship. how can i tell her now?? i cannot and willnot do it face to face but she will never believe me if its another txt plz help i dnt know wat to do.
2006-11-19 07:33:57 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to tell her face to face, its the only way.
If you are too scared to do that, I'm afraid there is no chance for your relationship.
You regret the things you didn't do, not the the things you did.
2006-11-19 07:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Oh you poor thing! How long have you guys been friends? How often do you spend time together?
I think it's sweet the way you have acted so far to save your friendship, however I also don't agree that it is healthy to let these feelings develop with her knowing, you never know she may have not replied because she feels exactly the same as you!
I would suggest talking to her face to face, just explain that you have began to develop feelings for her (I wouldn't use the love word until you get an indication of how she feels about what your saying) tell her that your not exactly sure how you feel, but you know it is outside the relms of a friendship.
By this stage in the conversation she will either be smiling and being receptive to what your saying or she will be more or less telling you that shes uncomfortable! Depending upon the outcome I would try and play it down and not make it such a big deal! She may feel the same, but then again you need to be prepared that she only wants you as a friend, in which case, if you have poured your heart out then there is very little chance of you being freinds on the same level.
I hope this helps and just one last bit of advice before i go... whatever you do, dont make her decide how she feels then and there, simply make it casual and she will come to you if she wants you.
good luck and best wishes xxxx
2006-11-19 07:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by SARA H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
outch. that sucks. you really shouldn't have done it by text in the first place. totally not the way to go. believe me, there is absolutly noooo way to get over this fear than by actually doing it. yes it sux reallly bad and it is as scary as hell but you just gotta do it. and even if you do this, it really most likley won't hurt your friendship at all if she doesn't love you back. most girls would be ok still being your friend and wouln't change anything. but if she does feel the same about you then you would be gaining something wonderfull, maby she was doing somethin when she got the txt n didn't see it and when she did finally see it, she might have gotten really excited, only to have you tell her that it was some friend messin with her. there is no way to not be afraid to do it, just try n work up some courage and go out and do it! you will feel soooo much better. believe me. i've been in this situiation about 3 times already and now its not as big of a deal because i know that it isn't the end of the world if they don't feel the same. Good Luck with this! i hope i helped you out!
-TJ
2006-11-19 07:40:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never build anything solid on dishonesty, especially as women tend to distrust the truth anywas. I expect you scared her with your first message, and she may be in shock or denial and avoiding you so she doesn't have to deal with the issue. And she probably knows you lied about your friend, if she has already accepted the first message the second message probably angered her because you made her think about "things", now she just probably wants to kill you (only metaphorically I hope). Time for some major butt kissing but in time she should at least accept your friendship again. Bottom line is never NEVER drop the bombshell of your feelings like love by text if you can do so in person, if you can't look them in the eye, they will feel it's not that important to you. That's the sort of thing women have romantic dreams about, ruin their dream and you are SOL.
2006-11-19 07:42:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want her to know you just got to tell her. Texting is foolish as they can be misinterpreted. As the situation stands now things aren't ideal, so whats the worst that could happen? And if your friend cares for you even if she doesn't feel the same she'll hopefully be flattered, politely tell you she's not interested and after a bit of awkwardness things will get back to normal again.
2006-11-19 07:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by seaside_girl_03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to start out with this dramatic 'L' word? That's where your problems stem. Just invite her someplace nice, get to talking. Let her know you'd be interested in taking the relationship to a new level. If she says she's not interested, there's no reason you can't remain friends.
Of course you're going to have to explain you chickened out of the e-mail. Those are negative points. Girls aren't stupid, you know.
2006-11-19 07:37:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of guys are nervous when asking a girl out. You have to understand why you are nervous. Most probably because you are unsure about her answer....will she say yes? will she say no? what if she likes me...or what if she doesn't? That's all the head games, just breath in and go for it. You know like you jump in the swimming pool for the first time...At first you are afraid that the water is cold, but then you decide "what the heck" and go for it...same story here... :) Just breath in...breath out and go for it. :)
2016-05-22 04:05:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a problem there dont you ? you cant text again so maybe a letter and tell her how you feel but make it quite clear that above all else that your friendship meas alot to you and you would not want to loose her as a friend but you need to tell her how you feel if you cant then you will have to try and bury the feelings that you have for her good luck my friend its a hard one and believe me i know i have been there .
2006-11-19 07:39:13 · answer #8 · answered by ninja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've ruined your chance to do it by text, maybe write her a letter or something. If not its going to have to be face to face. Lets face it, its far more meaningful to be brave and tell her straight, no mobiles or paper involved!!
2006-11-19 07:41:07 · answer #9 · answered by BritishChick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter in your own handwriting! Fess up that you lied and why. Send her flowers or something with an I'm Sorry attached. Good luck!!!
2006-11-19 07:38:03 · answer #10 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋