When my boyfriend was an hour late picking me up from a laundromat, I asked him what took him so long (he was supposedly helping his son). He avoided answering and then got angry when I asked again (I thought he hadn't heard me). He said, "I'm not going to answer that." He said he's sick of my being suspicious of him. I do have trouble trusting him, and I have a habit of asking him where he's been and what he's been doing,but how do I know if he's telling the truth. I heard if someone gets angry and defensive, then they are trying to hide something. Or is he just frustrated with my suspicions?
2006-11-19 07:30:13 · 11 answers · asked by krazykat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can understand both your sides. If you can't trust him, you need to figure out why - is it him, or is it you? To me, it sounds like it's you. STOP trying to make him justify himself to you. He is not your son - he is your boyfriend. If it's him, and you know FOR A FACT you can't trust him, then leave him!!!! Either way, stop making him account for his time - he is his own person.
Could he have called you and told you he was going to be late? He probably should have apologized, and perhaps didn't if you jumped his sh** right then and there.
Remember, men and women react differently - likely, he is not trying to hide something, he just doesnt appreciate being treated like a child and is trying to reclaim some autonomy.
2006-11-19 07:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by Audania 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger does not have to be the first sign, but it can be a sign. I have personal experience to back me up when I say cheating men are the stupidist creatures to walk the earth. Your fiance getting angry when you question him just gives you more reason to believe that he's cheated. An honest man who has nothing to hide does not react with anger. I don't know if he actually cheated, but what he said would make me think that he is not opposed to the idea. You don't have a lot to go on here, but there are other signs that you should be aware of in case these messages are just the tip of the iceberg. Emotional and physical detachment, or wanting to have sex with you more often, sort of a stupid man's way of hopefully making you think he couldn't be cheating because he has sex with you all the time. Does he hide his cell phone, keep it on silent, or turn it off when he's around you? Does he accuse you of cheating, another way stupid men try to hide their guilt by turning it around on you. Another sign is anger, but not just when questioning about their fidelity. There are lots of clues, because cheaters are stupid. I would keep my eye on him, but again speaking from my own life, pushing the issue the way your hormones want you to, can make his actions on cheating even worse.
2016-05-22 04:05:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you don't trust him do you think he is going to tell you the truth when you ask him where he has been> Do you think he is going to say 'I have been doing my GF'? Stop asking ...start watching...pay attention to what he says ...where he goes...if he keeps a different schedule than usual.....if he starts buying new underwear or clothes or his stuff is missing...he masks his smell when he comes home with a cigar or after shave he never wore before...little things mean a lot if there are enough. But if you don't trust him your marriage needs some help...trust is the foundation of the relationship.Maybe counseling will help...just be as sweet as you can...maybe he will stop what he is doing if he is doing something???
2006-11-19 07:56:19 · answer #3 · answered by PRISSY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a psychologist, I would say it definitely sounds suspicious. I would just observe him for a while without saying anything and use my intuition to decide what I think is going on. Love should not have to be arguing all the time.
2006-11-19 07:33:35 · answer #4 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are nagging at him all the time with your suspicions then that is all it could be.... but my experience is that if they realy get angry and won't talk about it then something is going on .... it might not be bad , but you never know..... try not being on him all the time love is trusting someone....
2006-11-19 07:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're very wrong about that.You said you don't trust him and this really makes it difficult for most guys to find happy relationships.Why don't you accept his excuses?Do you have to go sniffing and getting suspicious about whatever he says?Do you have any reason to suspect him of anything? if you don't then you should stop it before you crash the relationship(sounds harsh..but that's the truth).If he loves you then there's no problem.You will just push him to the limits....everybody wants to be trusted in his/her relationship.
2006-11-19 07:39:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may be frustrated with you being suspicious. The best thing you could do is stop asking him. and start investigating. dont let your guard down. be strong and start spying. remember where there is smoke there is fire.
2006-11-19 07:35:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel in your heart that he is cheating then he probably is. Women have an intuition about things like that and we are usually not wrong.
2006-11-19 07:32:59 · answer #8 · answered by Sexcchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
culd b eva, e culd b cheatin, mte b fed up of ur acusatuns
2006-11-19 07:34:18 · answer #9 · answered by tnt_bbe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO it not a sign of cheat
2006-11-19 07:33:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋