I had been in a commited relationship or so I thought for the last year and we have had our ups and downs. But he started seeing a therapist for his commitment issues which I didn't have any idea existed. I know that he would change his mind about things like moving in together from day to day. What does this mean?
2006-11-19 07:26:58 · 4 answers · asked by Sexcchick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most importantly, I've never met a guy whose commitment issues are his girlfriend's fault, so chances are that you can rule that option out. It seems that when there are commitment issues, there's always something more attatched, some other issues for the individual to work through, typically resulting from a subconcious distrust of other people (not you specifically, dear) or his inability to trust himself to live up to what he thinks might be your expectations (even if you have none...we worry about stupid things sometimes lol) if you were to get more serious.
It sounds like you two aren't living together right now? If that's the case, it's probably best to hold off (which I'm sure you already know...) until he can make up his mind for good. Being patient with someone whose direction in life is so awkward right now must be one of the hardest things in the world, but in the end it will pay off one way or another, either with a more trusting and fuller relatioship (hopefully) or with a realization that this relationship might not go anywhere. Best of luck in your relationship!
2006-11-19 07:41:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you said guys only, so go ahead and bump me off if you want but I think I have an answer for you. He is seeing a therapist, do you know how lucky you are to have a guy that will even go. You said he is checking on his commitment issues which also means he is thinking of "moving forward" with you and is trying to clear his mind. My husband and I have been married 27 years and I WAS THE ONE with committment issues. He went to therapy with me. LOTS of guys won't go. I think it means what it looks like, he is a guy who admits he needs help moving forward WITH YOU. That is a good thing. Don't pick it apart. I think you may have hit the Pot of Gold in guys. Good Luck...I bet down the road he may even ask you to go with him. I think you are off to a good start.
2006-11-19 07:37:27 · answer #2 · answered by ஐAldaஐ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
with all those hood rats running around giveing it up for free no wonder the guy dont wanna commit move
2006-11-19 07:30:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry to tell you it means he has cold feet
2006-11-19 08:11:59 · answer #4 · answered by onelonevoice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋