I'm all alone, a bad mom, i have no friends and my daughter's father doesn't even care about us.I feel i have nothing to live for.I love my daughter but i feel i will just screw up her life the more i stay around 'cause i can't control my emotions.Everytime she says dada i feel so bad cause it's my fault that he's not here with her and i can't change that.His whole family thinks i'm crazy and i guess that i am but i'm so embarrassed for the way i have been acting and i can't do anything to change that.I keep making things worse and i have no one to talk to.I don't know what to do anymore....
2006-11-19 07:15:52 · 13 answers · asked by serenity 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hey...relax. It's difficult to be a mom and anyone will feel a little crazy sometimes from stress and lack of support or understanding. Your daughter needs you, emotional or not. Embarrassment is no reason to give on life. It's a reason to start getting help and try to live right. If you have to, explain to your daughter that her father was unable to be a good dad, but you don't have to feel like anything is anyone's "fault" and it doesn't have to break your heart. He chose what he chose and now you have to be a good mom and step up to the plate and take care of yourself and your daughter. Be strong.
Is there a church or counseling center you can go to? A family physician or maybe the doctor who delivered your baby? There is no reason to keep being depressed and embarrassed when you really have a lot to live for that you just haven't put yourself in the position to try yet. Go try.
2006-11-19 07:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Serenity, you are NOT alone, you have your daughter, you have the community of Answers, so far we have always been there and answered all your questions and given you the best advice we could, There are counseling resources in the Boston Area where you live. I am a dad, I cannot even imagine what I would do if my daughters ever considered what you are thinking...please feel free to write to me day or night you have my email now,if you need to talk I will give you a phone number as well...
2006-11-19 16:07:26 · answer #2 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your life is very difficult. You have a child that needs care, a father that's not really involved with his own child, no friends and call yourself a bad mom.
Yet I know a young lady that was born without the bone to surround her spine so it was surrounded with a metal rod. She has been in a wheelchair all her life. She has graduated from college and has a masters degree and is gainfully employed. She has many friends, but get's taken advantage of by men. She can never have children.
Of course the above doesn't help you in any way except for putting your own life in perspective. She would give a billion dollars to be YOU. lol. It's funny when you think about it because it's true.
You have everything but you don't know it. Everything but don't appreciate it. Stop thinking of yourself and think about your child, so she doesn't have to suffer. You owe her that and more.
2006-11-19 15:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are support groups for people that are in your situation. Your daughter should be you life. Don't give up on her. She is a innocent little child. She's probably saying dada cuz she doesn't know any better. My daughter always calls me dada and she's 17 months old. Realize that you are not going to get him back and start with a clean slate. Move somewhere completely different where no one knows your name and leave your past behind you! Start from scratch whereever you move. Be strong for your daughter, it'll all work out! Good Luck. You can talk to us.
2006-11-19 15:22:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how long ago you posted this, but I hope you are ok. Have you thought about seeing your doctor and telling him how you feel. Your daughter should mean the world to you. How old is your daughter? Are you married? If your not, then I suggest you move on from this man and make a great life with you and your daughter. I was like that with my son many years ago, then I met a man 8 years ago and could not have asked for a better life. It will happen for you....If you need someone to talk too, email me..
Nicole
pixiewe@yahoo.com
2006-11-19 15:22:06 · answer #5 · answered by pixiewe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Life is a precious thing, and you never know where it will lead. Your daughter needs her mother, period. Focus on that. And you do not need to feel alone - there are so many resources available, you just need to start looking - check at the public library, on the Internet, etc. If an organization cannot help you, then perhaps they can point you in the right direction.
Life is hope.
2006-11-19 15:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is a great blessing of ALLAH. dont spoil it. If u cant think about you then @least think about ur daughter.....u are saying A BAD MOM u have......now why are u turning urself into a BAD MOM??????????
just cool down........A very large number of baby-gals are there in the world who dont have fathers. U can manage it by going far from ur currnet residence. If u cant offord, just start a job 9 am-2:Pm and leave ur daughter to working-mothers Home........
Be Brave and dont behave like a 6-years-old child.
If u can offord, get marrie again and dont think about ur ex-husband cz he dont care for both of you.
2006-11-19 16:23:22 · answer #7 · answered by 56465456878990909 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang in there things change with time and you wont feel that way down the road. yes people care about you they are just tied up with there own problems in life like you and dint pay attention to other people. try changing the way you act on things you are thinking about, like talking to your child or to someone on the phone. think twice before you act make it a challenge.good luck!!!
2006-11-19 15:24:46 · answer #8 · answered by dl544 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think that way your only trying to convince your self no one cares,they may not say or show it,but if you wasn't there,you would soon be missed,so buck your self up,the worlds got lots to offer
2006-11-19 15:22:18 · answer #9 · answered by barnowl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really need professional help and fast.
There isn't a next life to go to - this is it. You won't be doing your daughter any favors, and that's what you have to live for. Your job is to care for her.
2006-11-19 15:27:42 · answer #10 · answered by DA 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋