me and my 15y/o son got into a heated argument and he told me to go fuc* my self and i then told him to go kill himself. now he wants to live with his mom full time(right now we have joint custody)
since he doesnt want to live with me anymore will the judge make his decision completely based on that and give her full custody even though she lives on a fixed income?
2006-11-19 07:12:23 · 11 answers · asked by Charles B 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The judge will take into consideration what is in his best interest, and what he wants. I understand that what you said was said in the heat of the moment, but I think you're an ***. And it doesn't matter if you make more than the mother, it'll even out when you start making those child support payments.
2006-11-19 07:19:44 · answer #1 · answered by shojo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually the judge doesn't even need to use this as a reason to give her full custody. Your son is 15 at this age the court system will allow him to choose where he wants to live. He is old enough to make his own decision. As long as she can provide a safe home for him and that is where he wants to be he can go to live with her full time and you will be required to pay child support that reflects the new custody agreement.
This heated argument didn't help with your case. You are the adult and regardless of what your son, who is the child, said to you, you are responsible for your response. It sounds like you there are some underlying issues besides just this one arguement. Perhaps you and your son should look into counseling regardless of if he moves out or not. It is important that you work through your problems so both of you can have a healthy relationship. I think there is obviously some anger here there needs to be addressed. I have 4 sons, the oldest is 17 and honestly I can't imagine ever telling him to go kill himself regardless of what he said to me.
But even without this incident your son is of legal age to tell a judge where he wants to live and why. And most courts will abide by the childs wishes.
2006-11-19 16:30:45 · answer #2 · answered by Proud to be APBT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that you want full custody of a teenager ? Obviously I think you are not ready to handle all that by your self.
Think about at the reaction you had in that argument, you are acting like your son, you weren't a parent you were just acting like another sibling.
I think before anything you need to get your head straight and patch things up, be a parent and step up to the plate and also get some professional help if needed and go as family you, your ex and your child.
2006-11-19 16:06:29 · answer #3 · answered by wanna_help_u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your telling your 15 year old son to go kill himself...are you sure you should get custody....no matter how heated the arguement that is a horrible thing to say to a kid....I have raised 3 sons all adults now and I know they can push you right to the edge of the cliff....but never get so angry that you make a comment like that....God imagine if he got depressed and did that.......kids do it all the time!!!!!!.....walk away when you get that mad....words like that will hurt him the rest of his life..
2006-11-19 15:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by kandeee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, you lost all chance for full custody and also all chances at shared custody. Your son just has to say to the judge that you told him to go kill himself and your ex-wife has full and final custody and you pay child support without ever seeing him again.
You done screwed yourself real good.
2006-11-19 15:24:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally dont think that you are cut out to parent right now.. How dare you tell your child to kill himself, that is very uncalled for. Understandable the kids said go F yourself, but he is a kid and you are a grown up..Maybe you need to calm down , and take some parenting classes to learn how to be a better parent and role model
2006-11-19 18:19:38 · answer #6 · answered by proud_momof_2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Income doesn't really determine who gets custody. Given that you lost your temper with him and acted in an immature way, I bet it does hurt your chances. I hope you realize that YOU are the PARENT here. Telling your son to go kill hemself was completely uncalled for, no matter what he said to you.
2006-11-19 15:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by elizabeth32132 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
actually your child is 15 when 16 your child can decide for themself who or where they wanna live.
Apoligize if your truly sorry. Just let him cool off say to him if you wanna stay there for awhile thats fine but know i do really love you and i didnt mean what i said sometimes adults say stupid things when there mad and i know theres no excuse i should of known better because i am the adult but i am human and even adults make mistakes and dont know everything. I sorry if i hurt you! Please can you forgive me and try to find it in your heart to give me another chance.
but you really have to mean it!!!!!!
you wont lose joint custody if you explain first and if you try to make amends with your child.
2006-11-19 15:22:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 15, before you deserve custody, you should start acting like you are at least 16. "Go kill yourself" for Christ's sake what is wrong with you?
2006-11-19 15:22:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
why in the hell would you tell your child to go kill himself...he probably will do it cause he has a parent like you. I don't care how mad you were u don't tell your child to kill themselves...you should go kill yourself
2006-11-19 18:32:36 · answer #10 · answered by breyanasmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋