My fiance's family lives about 4 hours away. He hasn't seen them in 3 months. My family lives 7 hours away and I haven't seen them in almost 3 years. He wants to go up there - but his family has done nothing but argue these past few months. All of his siblings are snobby towards me - like they think they're better. When we got engaged, they didn't even say 'congrats.' And they always talk about me behind my back - this has been acknowledged. No one is even offering us a place to stay - out of 4 houses. I kinda don't want to go, but I know it's his family and he loves them. I also love my family, too. I just...don't know what to do. I don't want to tell him because I don't want to hurt his feelings...but I think he knows how I feel about them. He's never even met my family...and this will be our first thanksgiving together. Oh yeah - He wasn't even going to invite me up there in the first place. If I don't go, I'll be alone. If I do, I'll be miserable for the whole week. What to do?
2006-11-19 07:08:47 · 3 answers · asked by Momma Jette 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
first of all you need to communicate your thought and feelings with him. holding on to them assuming he knows how you feel is your biggest mistake. why not sit down with him and come up with a plan that you can see his family for one holiday and your family on the other? i realize that you don't feel comfortable around his family, but if you plan on being with this guy you will have know choice other than to be around them from time to time. so talk to him come up with a plan you can both agree to. if he is not willing to so, and he still wants to go to his parents, let him go. then you go to yours, and upon your return home tell him that you did not like the fact that he could not work with you on this and that you can not spend your life with someone that does not care enough about you and how you feel.
2006-11-19 07:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by here to help 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to set him down and let him know whats going on, Just because you may think he knows doesn't mean he does. Talk everything out and get it into the open. If he does know what is going on and tells you that he does know then he doesn't respect you enough to take your feelings into account.
2006-11-19 15:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u don feel to go its ok...but if u go he'l feel nice about u and when he sees his family behaving jerkly to u and see u not even answering to their insults he'l finally take u to ur family.
all u gotta do is trust in ur self.
2006-11-19 15:20:30 · answer #3 · answered by tonima 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋