Im talking to this guy who is very sweet and nice and he doesnt drink or smoke or anything like that and hes is extremely considerate of others and respectful. And yesterday i went to a party at my freinds house and all my freinds are drinkers and smokers and such and all and when i went sober to the party i felt like i was in the outside looking in cause im so used to being the drunk one but now that i quit drinking and all that i felt uncomfortable..........do you think that i should surround myself with people like the(nice) guy that im talking to? cause im not used to people like him so its refreshing....... or do i surround myself with freinds that are like the person i used to be? please let me know what you think.........
2006-11-19 07:04:30 · 18 answers · asked by Lauretha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you have found a great guy. It's great you have changed your life for the better not because of a man. Changing for that great guy is okay but if you don't do it for yourself and for the better apart of you won't be completely whole. Surround yourself with those nice people and those who inspire you to do what is going to help you in the long run. I am familiar with all the smoking and drinking and let me tell you it wasn't doing me any justice only causing me problems. I made a vow to change my life and I feel so much better.You are doing the right thing. Continue to talk to your friends just let them know you can't hang anymore due to changes you have made. If they are true friends they will understand.
2006-11-19 07:17:34 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. Conservative 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's wonderful you found someone who is so great.. and its even better that he is impacting your life for the better. I would not even think twice on this one..If you feel uncomfortable around your friends at partys then try only going out to the malls or something where drinking will not be involved..That way you still have your great man and can still hang with your friends..(places where everyone will be sober) that way you will be comfortable
2006-11-19 15:10:02 · answer #2 · answered by tiggerslily2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to drink alcohol but I do not now. When I don't drink, I can't stand to be around a bunch of drunks. Drinkers are OK, if they can handle it.
There is nothing wrong with expanding your world to other interests and you can still keep your old friends. Just hang out with them when they are a little more sober.
If they are never sober, they are alcoholics.
2006-11-19 15:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're doing the right thing. It's very hard at your age (I take it you're a teen) not to succomb to peer pressure. But it can be done. Just think of that wonderful guy you're seeing. As to who you want to surround yourself with, that is up to you. If your drinking friends have other qualities that draw you to them, then by all means, enjoy their company. Just don't do the drinking part. I know it sounds tough, but it can be done. Throughout my time in high school (a long time ago) I had drinking and smoking friends, yet I never drank. It can be done! And think of the benefits you are doing to your body. It's tough, but worth it. Good luck.
2006-11-19 15:12:28 · answer #4 · answered by bellegurl17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should keep your friends and have the nice guy. The guy likes you, not your Friends. But If your planning on not hanging out with your friends anymore for a guy, maybe he's not right for you. If you can hang out with your friends that like to drink and get drunk, and you can stay sober, that will make him like you a lot more. He will be like whoa! " All of her friends drink and she doesn't, that's hott."
2006-11-19 15:19:07 · answer #5 · answered by lexi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely surround yourself with people like the nice guy. You need sober people around to stay sober. Good Luck â¥
2006-11-19 15:08:09 · answer #6 · answered by I Am Jack's Wasted Life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you to decided what you want out of life and with whom you want to spend time with. I'm a non-smoker, non drinker as well and alot of my good friends are the same, but I do have a few that do drink and even do drugs. I've never felt uncomfortable around them and I chose to still be their friend, because they are good friends to me. As long as your not in a dangerous situation, it's cool to hang out with whomever you want.
2006-11-19 15:10:38 · answer #7 · answered by Kitty Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should hang out with people that you feel comfortable around. If you don't feel comfortable around certain people than don't hang out with them anymore. It is great that you want to stop because being drunk is very dangerous and I am sure that you have heard it before and it is true. If you start to feel wierd around a certain person and they keep trying to temp you than they are not really friends with you. So dump them. Even if you ahve been friends with them 4ever. I had to do that because one of my best friends kept getting me into trouble and she kept trying to temp me to drink and smoke and I was sick of it so I haven't seen or talked to her for 2 years. I feel so much better now that we aren't friends anymore. Good Luck.
2006-11-19 15:26:32 · answer #8 · answered by Tempest6768 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have grown out of the drinking at parties phase. I think it's time to find 'grown up' friends that don't feel the need to get drunk at every gathering.
2006-11-19 15:10:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i should think that was obvious. people with your old problems can easily pull you back into your bad habits. stay away from their partys and yes you should stay with those who are a better influence for you. Yeah you'll feel uncomfortable but that will not last forever. don't feel bad just feel proud at what you have accomplished and hang out with those who do appreciate what you have done.
2006-11-19 15:09:13 · answer #10 · answered by Roxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋