me and my 15y/o son got into a heated argument and he told me to go fuc* my self and i then told him to go kill himself. now he wants to live with his mom full time(right now we have joint custody)
since he doesnt want to live with me anymore will the judge make his decision completely based on that and give her full custody even though she lives on a fixed income?
2006-11-19 07:02:07 · 5 answers · asked by Charles B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
what is wrong with you? why on earth would you say such a thing to any child? to be honest i think that you should just allow him to and live with his mother.with out going back to court. what you said to him was mean, hurtful, to him and he will never ever forgive you or forget what you said.let him go, regardless of his mothers income. i think you both need this.you really should be ashamed of your self. also once he tells his mother what you said she will have your butt back in court and yes the judge is not going to take to kindly to what you said, and more than likely could order you to get counseling, and could also make it that you not be able to see your son unsupervised until you do.
2006-11-19 07:30:07 · answer #1 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone argues with their children or parents at some point. I know, I've done it several times with both of my parents. Telling your son to go "kill himself" was above and beyond anything you should ever say to your child. Other than that, he's over the age of 12 so he can make his own decision about where he wants to live, and the Judge WILL ask him where he wants to live. One argument isn't going to sway the choice of where your son lives. What will be the deciding factors are: How often do you argue, How intense are the arguments, Is the Child being emotionally abused or neglected, and why he wanted to live with his mother. Either way you should make piece with your son.
2006-11-19 07:20:43 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son being 15 has a big say in who he lives with. It doesn't matter that his mom is on a fixed income or not. If she hasn't been ruled as an unfit mother then I would suggest that you talk to your son and make sure that he just wasn't angry at the time he said that.
2006-11-19 07:16:40 · answer #3 · answered by angel b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely the choose would not even could desire to apply this as a reason to grant her complete custody. Your son is 15 at this age the court docket equipment will enable him to choose on the place he needs to stay. he's sufficiently old to make his own determination. as long as she will grant a secure living house for him and that's the place he needs to be he can bypass to stay together with her complete time and you'd be required to pay newborn help that reflects the hot custody contract. This heated argument did not help which includes your case. you are the grownup and regardless of what your son, who's the newborn, suggested to you, you're in charge on your reaction. It seems such as you there are some underlying matters besides only this one arguement. possibly you and your son ought to look into counseling regardless of if he strikes out or not. that's significant which you artwork with the aid of your issues so the two one in all you may have a healthful relationship. i think of there is obviously some anger right here there needs to be addressed. I definitely have 4 sons, the oldest is 17 and surely i won't be in a position to think of ever telling him to bypass kill himself regardless of what he suggested to me. yet even without this incident your son is of criminal age to tell a choose the place he needs to stay and why. And maximum courts will abide by utilising the childs needs.
2016-10-22 09:08:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The courts are really reluctant to take kids away from their mothers unless they feel that the mother is unfit.
I'm sure that there was more to this story than you wrote, and you probably regret what you said. Your son may regret what he said too, but a kid that age lacks maturity. You dropped the ball in this instance, but that shouldn't be enough to swing his/her opinion.
Unless you guys are due in family court for a custody hearing, I wouldn't worry about it. Give the kid up for a little bit and apologize. When you want to make amends, do something that he wants to do and show genuine effort.
Good luck
2006-11-19 07:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by DA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋